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I apologize in advance for the lenght of this post and my non native English proficiency but I need a strong and objective advice on this matter that is driving me a bit nuts:
Four months ago I began receiving training at a call center for a well-known American company to become a tech support agent. During the initial period, my long term relationship had just faded and while I was hurt by it, I couldn’t help but having had an instant but strong physical crush towards one of my superiors when he gave us some workshops and it would only be limited to the professional boundaries. Shortly after, I began taking calls as the final stage of my training and since he is the person in charge of reviewing the quality of each agent’s service throughout that trainee period, he’d bring each one of the agents to his office to provide us feedback and counselling so he then took me in and while I was highly aware that he’d hold our meetings in a professional fashion I couldn’t help but notice small details that later turned into hints: he’d take any opportunity to touch my shoulder, my back and my knees or hold the door for me even if I was way behind him. I first took those details as the usual bossy body language but then, every time I’d get feedback from him at his office he began getting closer to me and ask me things like: “What are your plans for this weekend?" or “what did you do recently?" and If I answered: “I went to see the movie ____” (which occurred), he’d then ask me about my overview of the movie: “Did you enjoy it?”, “How about the main actor?”. “I happen to be a sort of geekie so I enjoyed a lot this detail about the movie”. Things quickly escalated to have more personal talks such as booze stuff like on the occasion that I went way out of formality when he asked me how I was and I told him sincerely while laughing nervously: “I’m actually coming to work with a huge hangover (which I did) so I am not sure if I want to continue having big plans for Saturday” and then he’d give me five and began talking about what kind of drinks he likes and continuously asked me what I liked to drink, to which he’d bring comments like: “I am not into wine but my sister gave me the other day this known wine …ahh…which name does it has?”, like seemingly interested. These details continued to even more personal questions such as him asking me about my family members: if I had brothers or sisters, who I lived with and then he brought the fact that he is a dad that has a daughter that lives out of town and then he was looking forward for purchasing a drawing tablet or a game console to her, regardless of the details I believe that if he went on providing me further information about him, it might be a sign of interest, because I had seen him speaking to other female agents and doesn’t portray the same traits as with me. Then, as I mentioned at the beginning, I am not exaggerating what happened. Furthermore, he’d come to my desk to say hi or he even touched my wrist once with the excuse of looking at my weird bracelet. The latest and strongest hints were when I caught him staring at me while I pass through a mezzanine to check out and when he was doing it while driving and me walking by and I, stupidly, didn’t’ return a single glance due to my extreme shyness. I recently had a dispute that got me out of it due to a stupid supervisor (the other supervisors were aware that it hadn’t been my fault but weren’t able to help me even though they tried) that left me unemployed but since I have two jobs, m income isn’t a reason to panic. I believe that my crush had suspected of this event or just loose his interest for me (if there was), because I no longer saw him greeting me or doing the usual gently things he regularly did. We have one friend in common in Facebook and I had been hesitant to add him or not, I’d be deeply embarrassed if he rejected me or find me overly creepy even though I am only looking forward to have a casual thing and recover a bit of sexual empowerment and also, I fear to regret it later as my best friend pointed out and it is a one-time chance. I am a sorry this post took this long, but by pointing out each thing, I might get the objective advice that I truly need since I don’t like being taken as a dumb girl. What is your opinion in this matter, folks? | Crushes |
My crush likes my friend and she likes him back. They barely even know each other smh🙄🙄 | Crushes |
So I've had a crush on this girl since the beginning of highschool. Now it's our senior year, we've finally become friends and I really like her. However, she just asked a guy out and clearly isn't interested. I realize moving on is the best idea, but it's tough. Any advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
The breakup happened two months ago (on febuary 27th 2016) but i still cant get over it help me | Crushes |
I was on a school trip for a week. We were 9, 10 (only me), 11, 12 the grade. There is this girl from 12 grade that seems nice. She is beautiful, smart (as far as I can say from the contact we've had), ambitious. I don't really like her, but I wouldn't mind anything either. The thing is that she kind of treated me like a child because of the age difference. On the school trips we went out a lot. I basically hanged out with 12 the grade because there was no one from 10 grade. When we went out in the evening to bars, she would always be concerned about me, but in a motherly way. As I said, I find her attractive, but wouldn't say I have a crush on her.
What should I do?
Just wanting a second opinion. | Crushes |
Is someone willing to have a conversation that mostly consists of me saying how awesome my crush is? | Crushes |
So there's this girl who I've been super close with since about 7th grade (I'm a sophomore in college). We tried to date during our junior year of high school, but there was just enough distance between us (about an hour, and I was at boarding school) that it didn't work out. We were each other's first real significant other that we ever truly cared about, and I haven't met anyone since middle school that has made me feel the way she does. I really want to give a relationship another try because we're so much more mature now. We still keep in touch, not on a regular basis but we definitely try and keep up with each other. this comes to two of my questions:
1.) we go to school 13 hours away. Which obviously would stack the odds against us, if we were to date. Is that a good idea to try, or would it just end up doing more harm then good?
2.) We were both invited to a mutual friends' wedding. Would it be unorthodox/too strange to ask her to be my date to it, even though we are both going anyway?
I would love some input form any and all. Thank you so much, and good luck to everyone out there with their crushes. <3 | Crushes |
Okay so i have the biggest crush on this senior guy (i'm a junior) & i'm not sure how he feels about me?
At the beginning of this school year he'd caught me looking at him several times and that's when he started noticing me & he sometimes even smirked at me.
But for some reason we kinda stopped looking at each other & i started making eye contact with his friends more and more ( to the point where i even texted with oen of them for a short time ). It's so weird since his friend always look at me and my best friend & we do the same thing but thats not the point now haha,
Anyway, since last month my crush started making eye contact with me again A LOT. We went on a school trip together and he kept looking at me the whole time?Whenever we pass each other he will make eye contact for 2/3 seconds but his face is just blank? He has no expression & it's like he doesnt know what to do?
My friend keeps telling me that it's so clear that he's attracted to me but i'm not so sure..
We never really got the chance to talk to each other since he's a grade above me and we have no classes or lunch together.
I really want to start talking to him and get to know him but i dont know how? He's always with his friends & I also heard he's really insecure and he won't easily approach a girl, &i'm kinda shy too so...
Oh and also, at the beginning of the school year I sent him
(and his friends) a friend request on facebook but he never accepted it? He just ignored it but idk...
Please help me?
Is there any way i can approach him and start talking to him? Or should i just leave it? There's only 2 months of school left and its literally driving me crazy?😪
(i'm sorry this turned out kinda long lol)
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So I have a crush on a senior year girl who is leaving school in like 2 months, and I'm in junior year, I don't have a lot of time so I gotta move fast, I already knew her before and liked her a lot, but I haven't talked to her in months, she's kinda popular and always surrounded with popular people, that kinda made me shy away other times, BUT TODAY, OH TODAY
She came to sports a little early and was there completely alone, she sat there alone just waiting for like 20 minutes, my friends who know I like her told me "you have to take every single chance, so go ahead right now" and I kept making excuses and excuses and a lot of shitty bullshit excuses, lots of them, "maybe I'll bother her" I feel so fucking looser right now, I actually felt a physical urge to go ahead and meet her, but fucking let it go, i feel so low and worthless, can you guys help me out of it? and not make these same mistakes again? pls :( | Crushes |
She lives around 4 hours away from me and we have met occasionally but once i got to work with her for 2 days.She has the most beautiful energetic smile you can imagine and such glee and joy on her face and eyes.She has the most amazing soft pitched voice.What I'm not sure is if she actually does like me or even remembers me.She mentioned to someone else that i was passionate and "cute". I don't know how she meant it.
Anyways the point is that she lives far away and we don't interact at all on a daily basis.I don't know much about her life,likes or much even about her passion.Whenever we talked it was instant connection but we had to leave and go on our own ways.I miss her so much Guys and i've no way to live near her and talk to her.Everything seems so dull.It has been like this since a month and i can't get over this crush.
Also i'm quite afraid of even messaging her since we barely know each other.I might et a job even further away from here or might even be offered one abroad and i'm so conflicted.I wanna go find a job in the city she lives in and i dunno bump into her or something so i can be in her life or something.Also she's a bit taller than me i dunno how that fits into the position.
This seems hopeless but wth.i'll post it anyways.See what you guys think. | Crushes |
So, obviously there's a girl I'm highly interested in, and she's really nice, you know one of those super nice girls. So, one day I was texting her about, maybe 2-3 months ago and you know it was cool and all. Then she suddenly stopped, and left me on delivered. Sucks. I'm thinking about dropping her a text again, but I'm not sure if she's going to respond, or if she even cares anymore about me. (Oh, she stills says hi and all whenever we see each other) | Crushes |
We have hung out twice so far and she is amazing. She makes me laugh and i make her smile and i think its just because guys don't really give her the time of day because they don't see greatness. When she smiles my heart gets all warm inside and when i tell her that i dont like but she does, she will gasp and look at me as if im crazy. Well. I am, for her. Jesus that was cheesy. So my main concern is; What if I am just thinking she is into me when "shes just not into me"(you. like the movie reference.)? | Crushes |
I'm going to ask my crush this tomorrow. I have a funny meme to show her as a way to bring this stuff up tomorrow, after class lets out, when we normally talk.
So, what would you assume if you got that sorta ''third answer''? The ''silence''/''neither a yes or no''?
I've been thinking about both the yes and the no, but how about if all I get is silence tomorrow after I ask? | Crushes |
I told a girl on my swim team I like her. This is the first time I have ever told anyone I like them. I have never kissed or much less had a girlfriend. Im 15(6'4 m) I know a good amount of girls that like me and I like them but I generally throw my social life to the side for school or swimming so I never said anything. But there was something different about this girl. I assumed she liked me since she touched me when ever she had the chance ( eg: punching my abs, grabbed my butt, and just general hanging on to me in the pool), and she calls me "bae", compliments me, and her eyes are dilated when she looks at me. So today I grew a pair when she sent me a screenshot of a creepy guy I know saying she was "hot" because she was wearing jeans and a sports bra. So I joked and said she was hot wearing that and especially her one piece suit. But then she asked me for my number so I gave it to her and she asked me if I had anything to say. Being the complete fucking idiot I am I send the words to the fitnessgram pacer test. But she didn't take that, so I told her I like her. So I asked what she thought about me and she said she doesn't know. Being the pessimist I am I'm just going to assume she doesn't like me. so now things are awkward as hell.
Right after texting that I liked her I freaked out and rode my skateboard to a pond to clear my head and write this:You’re the first person to break my shield
,now I’m exposed and confused.
My adrenaline pumps though I am in no danger.
I don’t want to seem like a creep
,but those 3 empty dots are killing me.
I’m drowning
,in your dilated eyes.
But I don’t care if you feel the same way about me.
I just had to get this elephant off my chest.
Now I just hope we can stay at least friends
if not more.
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I like this girl and we've been friends for 2 months or so. She's really quiet and doesn't talk that much. We used to text a lot but in the past week or so she stopped Responding to my texts and didn't show up to school for 5 days. She looks sad a lot and talks to herself a lot. I don't really know what to do because I've tried asking her what's wrong and if she wants to talk about it but she says she's fine but I know she isn't. What do I do??
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I take an interest in this guy a grade above me. But I'm shy to talk to him. I'm popular and stuff but when it comes to guys, I just can't do it. I want to talk to him but he's always around his obnoxious friends, and I got invited to one of his friends parties and we didn't talk their either. I'm too scared to follow him on Instagram or add him on snapchat. gosh please help | Crushes |
I work with this guy and we have become relatively close. We clicked when setting up for an event at work and we have been kind of close every since.
We are in different departments, so we interact, but not on a daily basis. This is also because he happens to be part-time. Even though we may not talk in person all the time, we do kik non stop. We both start the conversation a different times, though I notice that I start most of the conversations. We have gone shopping together and he has built a bookcase for me when I asked him to. We even have plans to see a movie this weekend.
He always does stuff for me and we can talk about anything. He is always in my cubicle and he does treat me different than the other ladies at the job. Does he like me or just chop it up to a great friendship- or both?
He is a really shy guy and I know he does not have a lot of experience with women. So should I just ask him how he feels or just let it lie. He confuses me so much and I have never analyzed my actions with a guy so much. Plus, working together always adds a bit of hesitance in situations like these. Am I kidding myself?? | Crushes |
so i really like this girl cuz she's like the only asian in my school. And I'm asian too. I added her on facebook and talked to her about like everyday. Then she stopped replying to my messages and then I approached her in real life. I asked her if she thought I was annoying and she said yes. She said I was 8/10 annoying. What do I do? Just leave her alone? Don't talk to her ever again? | Crushes |
So this girl isn't my crush but I thought I could get some insight anyway. There's this girl in my class and we would talk occasionally and that would be it. The other day she comes up to me and asks if i did the homework. I start to get it out and she puts her hand on my chest. She who my girlfriend was, what grade she was in, her name etc. I kept saying I didn't have one. She wondered why I didn't and said that i was like Prince Charming or something. Then class started and i sat down. I was thinking "was that a prank?". 2 days later, same class, I'm sitting down at my desk and she walks over and sits on my desk. She puts her hand on my cheek and asks If theres a test today. I say no and then class starts. She has a boyfriend so I was thinking its just a goof or she's just like that but I've never seen her do it to other guys (besides her boyfriend) and was wondering if you guys could maybe help me out here. | Crushes |
So i met this guy like 3-4 weeks ago, so we started talking online, he is from my school but we're just talking online, we see each other but we just say "hey" and that's it. He starts conversations often online, i saw him in school like a lot but RIGHT NOW SOMETHING CHANGED, i started like him. And i dont he see me this way, i mean he's very shy when i come around and stuffs like this and he always search for me in crowds like i do, i know every little detail where i could found him in every school breaks.
So im shy and i dont know if i could tell him i like him, he is shy too but meh.
btw sorry for my english. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on this dude for a while now, and I want to get over it... I've mostly heard of people saying to make a list of what I don't like about them, but the thing is that I've exchanged like four words with him, I really don't know anything about him. It's very clear that he's not into me, and yesterday I texted him some bs question in the hopes he would tell me to stop talking to him... But didn't work. | Crushes |
Alright so I'm a senior in high school and I want to know if you guys think this girl likes me. She's a junior and I always knew who she was because she's really hot. I cant tell if she's out of my league because I'm a senior and pretty popular so I think I Have a good chance with her. I first talked to her on New Year's Eve when she had a bf which I wasn't aware of at the time. I was hammered so I don't really remember what we talked about but we talked for about an hour and the next day I saw pictures of us really close together with her kissing me on the cheek. She asked for my snapchat but we didn't really snapchat until she broke up with her bf. I always initiated the snapchats and sometimes she would rarely respond and usually she didn't. One weekend we sent a lot of snapchats because she was going to come to a party where I was but then we stopped the next day. About a week ago she went out of town with her lacrosse team and we started snapchatting every day. Just pics of her face but they looked kind of seductive and you can tell she put effort into looking good. Until yesterday she snap chatted me first and always responded but now she hasn't responded to the last two and I can't tell if it's because she is busy because we are back in school or if she moved on. I also can't tell if she is just shy/intimidated because I'm a well known senior. I see her looking at me a lot during a free period we have together too. Please tell me what you think. Thank you. | Crushes |
Okay , so I really like this girl but I never really get a chance to talk to her as she has alot of friend s (social anxiety is a bitch) and I can't really talk in group s , pleasssse I neeed advice😧
I was thinking of asking her to our formal , when is a good time | Crushes |
I'll try to keep this as short and simple as possible. We met on Tinder and quickly got her number. She's not very active on WhatsApp but we quickly met in real life. Had a nice 1st date in a pub talked for hours, had lots of fun, no kiss at the end though
One week later I was supposed to meet her and her female friend in a bar/club together with my friend. My friend actually cancelled so I went alone. I had a blast dancing with them, we all enjoyed. When her friend went to the toilet we had a small kiss, nothing too intimate, was more like a 1 second peck on the lips, but she didn't back away either.
Next day she added meet on Facebook. Now I'm wondering when to ask her again. Also wondering how much she's into me or maybe viewing me more as a friend. We didn't do share an intimate kiss yet on our 1st and 2nd date . It's hard to gage what she's thinking of me on WhatsApp. | Crushes |
For over 4 years now I want this girl. It wasn't so bad in the beginning, but it got worse. Sadly enough I wasn't in shape in the beginning, so I had low self esteem and she immediately got a new boyfriend (he actually ditched her, she was actually surprised by that, I don't know how this is possible, but oh well). She had a lot of boyfriends. To me she actually sent mixed signals, which really annoyed me, did weird things, obviously just playing around or she is very open, who knows, but still I could never really engage her. I also know that she can be a real heartbreaker. She ditched a dude and he had a really hard time, sent even letters. I don't want to end up like that. Last time I thought I can talk to her openly (just us) and maybe I could even confess somehow, but then she came with her new boyfriend. Surprise! This really destroyed my plan. Then I thought I shouldn't interfere anymore, it would just make problems I guess.. I can't really explain why I have developed these feelings or attraction, but denial is impossible, it won't stop. That's probably like saying "stop liking chocolate", it's just not going to happen. I'm wondering if it will stop? The worst thing for me is not that I can't get her, it's actually that I couldn't tell her my true thoughts, the lack of courage.. although she probably found out or guessed it already. By the way, she moved away, so a relationship wouldn't work out anyway. Other than that I'm a weird guy, a relationship wouldn't have worked out I guess. | Crushes |
So, basically I really like this girl whom I've been friend with for a while. I never said anything because she was dating somebody who is my "friend". (Well - used to be - we've sort of fallen apart in the past years and now he's more of a 'facebook friend' than a 'friend'.)
Anyway, they've recently split and I just want to tell her how I feel but am afraid of her reaction and also they've just recently split so I don't really know how she'd take it?
Ok it sounds really simple to say "just tell her" but if it was I'd probably already have done it yes? Anyway it's really messing me up. | Crushes |
So, i have this imense crush on this girl for about 4 months but things don't really progress. She is in the same year as me but we have only one class together (sport). We usually do the exercises together but outside this lesson, which is once a week, we don't see each other and therefore we have talked only 2 times outside the gym. The 2 small talks were quite nice but also quite short and also just about school topics. Now we don't see each other for 4 weaks due to holidays. I have her number, but she hasn't got mine, so I'm not sure whether to text her and what to say. I also have to admit that I have a tremendous desire to see her or just chat with her.
I'm thankful for any sort of advice from you guys :) | Crushes |
So her mum and my mum have known each other for a few years before we were born. They moved to this city at the same time, and we live within the same suburb - a few blocks away. We go to the same school, we like the same music, and I can't stop thinking about her.
Problem is, I have no idea if she likes me or not. | Crushes |
This is a girl I liked for a while now, but never acted on it. I think she has a boyfriend, at least she did a few weeks ago when I asked.
Anyway, this is really random as we don't really talk anymore. I already know she doesn't return my feelings but I don't know what I should do. | Crushes |
So here's my situation, I have a friend that I have a crush on. Her and I have been friends for about a year now and when we first became friends I was engaged. My (now ex) fiancée liked her at first but started to dislike her when she (as well as her friends) felt like my friend liked me as she was apparently always looking at me and wanting to talk to me.
About when my ex and I broke up I got locked out (ex was passed out drunk) my friend told me I can sleep at her place if it ever happens again. And about the same week we started hanging out more. We go get sushi like once a month or maybe more, we go to movies, and she comes over when she doesn't have to work for drinks and we watch movies and TV.
But what is all confusing to me is that she seems flirtatious with me, but maybe I'm over thinking it. She playfully hits me, is always sticking her tongue out at me, and we do and laugh about stupid stuff all the time. We also talk about stuff very openly with eachother that most people wouldn't (like sex and kinky stuff) and she tells me she always loves our conversations when we hang out. And for the longest time we never hugged when one of us would be leaving, and you could tell there was a lot of like tension in the air. But now we hug, and usually she goes to hug me first.
So sorry to ramble so much, it's just that normally I wouldn't think about any of this, but I have a huge crush on her. And I think she is way way way out of my league. (Which one day she looked at me like I was stupid when I said I wasn't attractive) | Crushes |
Hey Reddit,
Long story short; there's this extremely attractive Networking Tech guy who works at my school. He's in his 20's and he doesn't teach any classes so I never actually get time with him. I do, however, see him in the halls every day and we always make eye contact. A few friends and I were at the school musical this weekend and he was there to help with tech, apparently after the show he was looking me up and down. Plus he's just so nice. My mom works at the school as well in the cafeteria and he sent them flowers as a thank you for putting up with him during testing week.
I'm preeeeeeeeeeeeetttttttyyy sure I have a crush forming on him, which is bad.
What the FUCK do I do? | Crushes |
Hey reddit, firstly, I really like this girl. Last week, my friends finally motivated me enough to go for her digits. It was a successful day, super happy. Now, I've been trying to text her, but her replies are so.. Dissapointing. Her vague replies, to give you more look, here's how it would he like:
Me: Hey, its me!what's up?lol
Her: not much
Me: oh I see... Anyway what are you doing right now?
Her: hw(homework)
As you can see it feels like she's uninterested in talking to me, like there was this one time where her friends were using her phone, my friend did the same so he took my phone and tried to fit in with that friend of hers. The next day I texted her "hey.. Its me again lol.. Just wanted to say sorry about mnyg friend, he just grabbed my phone and started looking up things on it.." And then she goes like "o, idc. She's my friend" and here's where I'm stuck... I need your help... Does she really have no interest in me? Also keep in mind that we only met last week, so we only started talking to each other last week (in person). I also need your help, how do I make the conversation longer? It seems like everytime I try to start a convo, it ends super quickly.. Also, half of my friends say that she has no interest in me, the other half says that we haven't talked that much and they told me to talk to her more. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
So ever since I started working at Taco Bell about a month ago, a beautiful tall girl, small gauges just like me :), with shoulder length Amber color hair, (coincidentally her name is Amber as well xD) caught my attention. We first start talking at work with small talk, usual stuff, and she is so easy to talk to, I don't even worry about what I'm saying it just comes so naturally. She ends up complimenting a shirt I'm wearing at the time, it was a metal band I enjoy, and thought it was so awesome she has some similar interests. Some time goes by and we keep talking at work, she let me hit her vape she just got, and I find out she likes smoking weed and chilling and edm and raves and everything I like :) She at this point, a week or so into me knowing her, suddenly is upset at the loss of her boyfriend, and I feel such bittersweet joy, knowing I might actually stand a chance with her. We end up sharing snapchats and send photos of us smoking weed back and forth, and her hanging out with her friends, and every time I see her smile, my world lights up, and I get such a goofy grin on my face, I don't know how to contain myself. I went to a rave with some friends a few days ago now, and was surrounded by beautiful girls in a Molly and LSD fueled fire, and couldn't think about any of them, or the music or anything. Just Amber. I'm working up the courage to ask her to smoke and hang out, but I don't know how the whole working together thing will work out, but I won't let that stop me from at least trying to tell her how I feel. One step at a time I suppose. I had to type all this out because I couldn't keep my feelings in my head any longer. Thanks to anyone who read this, and I'd appreciate any advice <3 | Crushes |
I have this crush. We are very good friends. So good that she told me who she likes. Of course, the crush wasn't me. As you can imagine, I was heart-broken. It has been almost a year since she told me who her crush, and I'm wondering if she still has a crush on the same person.
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I am asking for help to make a decision. Should I:
&nbsp;* Tell how I feel to get it off my chest.
&nbsp;* Wait to see if her feelings change.
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Thank you in advance. | Crushes |
He is in a couple of my classes, and I asked him to prom not too long ago. He is a pretty shy kid from what I am aware of, and is not really close with anyone, although everyone gets along with him well and he is known to be funny to everyone. I think I am one of the only girls who talks to him, and I am always sure to say hello to him in the hallways. After I asked him to prom, we have been talking a lot more. The thing is, he does not really have any social media, and he is kind of mysterious since nobody knows him. I am afraid of asking for his number too quickly, and I also have trouble starting a conversation with him because I don't always know what to talk about. I never see him anywhere else except for in classes, so I never get to talk to him privately. I want to get to know more about him, and definitely want to become better friends. I constantly ask him questions because that is the only way that I can really keep a conversation. What should I do now?
Edit: I forgot to mention that because he doesn't really talk to anyone, and he has such a peculiar personality, I am kind of worried that he just won't really have a crush on anyone. I feel as if I don't have a chance because he wouldn't really like ANYONE back. | Crushes |
Yo, so i have this crush on a very cute girl at my school. I dont really know her well or talk to her. A couple of months ago i met her at a party. I dont remember much but i know for a fact that we kissed. I've been wanting to get in touch with her so i can ask her for a date. Because i dont really know her very well and i dont have the balls to just talk to her at school, i ended up with trying to add her on facebook. She didnt accept my friend request and after a week i took it back. I dont have a profile picture or anything on my profile that shows who i am. Keep in mind this is a shy girl who does not strike me as someone who uses alot of facebook. Ofc i thought i just got rejected but i didnt wanna give up like that. I had to check if she uses facebook, so i sent her a message. I sent her a message because then i can see if she has seen the message and just ignored it or if shes just not on facebook. Its been three days and she still havent seen my message. I know there is a way you can see it without leaving a trace. Do i just wait and see if she will replay or am i rejected? Help or advice are much appreciated. Thanks! | Crushes |
I think I fell in love for the first time last year. He'd leave a sweet taste in my mouth. I hate sweets. Love at this age, 16, is pointless, nothing but distracting fun that side-track you from school and more important things. The realization made me feel angry at myself for being so weak. It gnawed at me, so I got it over with. Told him I liked him but I was doing this to get over with it and he didn't have to do anything in response. This gave me a degree of closure; load of bull that did.
The mutual friend, who was the only other one I told about this, accidentally discovered I still had a video game character named after him 5 months after the incident. It shook me up, part shame part fear. We used to be in the same class for years, acquaintances that shared interests. Luckily, we no longer share any classes.
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Honestly I've always said it's one of the better/worse feelings in the world: developing a crush/interest in someone who you feel like you don't have a chance with. It started out that I hadn't really thought too much of this person, but we started talking when it was slow at work and all of a sudden I'm like "Wow, she's pretty awesome!" Like, the point where you start to think about them a lot more, and start thinking, "is she going to be working at the same time as me tomorrow? I better get some conversation starters ready!" that stuff is great, but the self-doubt/reality of the situations just sucks sometimes. I mean, I'll take some of the bad for the good/thrill of a new interest feelings. As someone who's never really been in a serious relationship, I can't wait to see what that feels like if I think these feelings are good. Whenever I get like this I start listening to feelsy love songs too lmao. Just my rambling thoughts! Anyone have similar scenarios? | Crushes |
NOTE: Keep in mind that I turned 13 this January of 2016 and I live in Asia.
I go to an International school and for my school, you're supposed to go on a trip to somewhere like the wilderness of Malaysia to learn independence and gain fun camping skills etc.
So this year I went on the school trip in Dalat, Vietnam thinking that it be fun which it was but it was also disastrous as I met a boy who was Italian might I add. He had the accent, he could speak the language, he would almost always roll his sleeves up above his elbows and somehow all those things were extremely attractive to me. I thought he was good looking but I didn't have a crush on him, yet. But then one day on the bus he pulls out a copy of Oliver Twist by Charles Dickens! That made him ten times more attractive to me. I mean who doesn't like a guy who reads, especially one that reads the classics. Not only does he read but he wears glasses. We even have a conversation about glasses and how we're both going to get the laser surgery when we're 18 years old because we both hate wearing glasses. I find all of these things incredibly attractive, attractive enough start feeling my crush for him.
The days went on and my feeling for him was alright, nothing out of the ordinary for a 13-year-old girl. But as I looked at him more than once on the bus until the last day of the trip, I started to notice things about him, he wore a big chunky watch (I liked it a lot), I liked his curly hair because I thought that was cool compared to my straight hair. I also learned that he was older than me and rode horses. Let me repeat that last one. He rode horses. OMG! That was it. My Chinese zodiac is a horse so was he. Even better, his Chinese zodiac is a horse and he's older than me by a few months. It's safe to say that I was head over heels infatuated with him.
I said infatuated, remember that part.
I told my roommates about it and coincidentally my roommates are in the same class as him. According to them and I quote 'he's such a nerd'. You think I would stop liking him but guess what... it fuels my infatuation even more. I love people who are smart; knowledge makes people so much more attractive.
He was my entire checklist on my imaginary dream boy.
[Note: I do know that all of these things are impossible but apparently they can be true. Proof: My crush]
[PS: These are all physical things]
-European
-Has a sexy accent
-Can speak more than one language(preferably a romantic language)
-Nice hair (Straight or Curly and preferably not black)
-Nice smile
-Smart (I'm Asian)
-Has some relationship with animals
He had all of these things, also if we got married our babies would be model material because they're Eurasian.That's selective breeding at its finest.
Anyways as the trip ended, I realised how shallow I was being.
I liked someone purely on their looks and things I heard about him from other people. I hate myself for this.
Every time I distract myself and think of something else he suddenly is there, walking down the stairs or to class even just talking to his friend hell I even catch him playing handball with his friends.
I can't seem to forget him. It worst when he's wearing his big chunky black watch (which is all the time).
I hope he doesn't have a Reddit account. Anyways if you have any advice to give me, please do comment!
Thanks for reading and commenting.
Edit: My old crush (who's French with the accent) just acknowledged me, he knows my name. Legit my life is so confusing. I hate myself for not being able to decide who I like. | Crushes |
Okay. So here's the gist: I'm a Junior in highschool, working on our school crew. I'm pretty below-average but I guess I'm entertaining or something along those lines because a lot of the crew girls hang around me. I am close friends(?) with two specifically: E, and K.
E is this kind of cool badass chick who did drugs at some point (shows me her old LSD drawings) but not really. She sometimes sleeps in her car because her parents kick her out and I reached out to her during one of these times but I guess it was weird even though at the time I was entirely unaware that she could have been flirting(?). I see her a lot in hallways etc. even when her classes are elsewhere and this is probably coincidence but whatever. She tends to suggest truth or dare when we hang out.
K is a younger girl who is really physical - sometimes to a confusing point even though she claims to be lesbian or sexually lesbian/romantically bisexual or something like that. I was at a Jew sleepover once and she literally fell asleep on me. Sits on me a lot. Very rubby.
So my question is: are they flirting with me? Am I stupid? Is this just a girl thing that girls do and I'm too dumb to know these things? Am I confusing friendship with intimacy? What is this? Whaaaaaa | Crushes |
Hi Reddit. So I have this problem.
Me (M 20) and my girlfriend (F 20) have been in a relationship for 2 and a half years. I like one of her girlfriend friends, who is also 20. Her and my girlfriend are close and have been friends since early childhood.
We have been out in groups together, she is single. She was in a relationship with one of my guy friends (I no longer talk to him, was never close) for nearly 2 years.
I can't get this girl out my mind. I'm infatuated with her. Me, My girlfriend, this girl, and another guy friend of mine all went out clubbing at the weekend. He got her very drunk (gave her doubles instead of singles, then topped them up with his own double when she wasn't looking) and took advantage and kissed her, she doesn't remember any of it.
She left the club and was sick. All he said to me was "mission accomplished I tongued her" went to high five me and I shook my head and declined. He then went to get a kebab and disappeared for 20 minutes, he got the cab home with us paid his share and I haven't spoke to him since.
I gave her water, tissues, and my coat, paid for her cab home (all 4 of us got in, 3 drops) put her seltbelt around her, let her be sick in the hood of my coat and held her hand all the way home, then walked her to her front door.
I can't get her out of my mind. I'm disappointed with my guy friend for mistreating her, but I can't stop thinking about her. I keep looking at our photos together, I really miss her and prefer her company to that of my own girlfriend.
This morning I coincidentally met her the train station, she said she was getting an early train, and I deliberately missed my train to catch the same train as her.
She doesn't remember the night or him kissing her, she just remembers me looking after her and she said thank you. At the end of the journey I gave her a hug and kiss on the cheek and left for work.
I know exactly when and how we met for the first time over 2 years ago (she was single, I was with my current girlfriend then) I felt very attracted to her right then and there, I remember my heart racing and just the general adrenaline of meeting someone.
We talked and flirted, she said she wished she could find a nice boyfriend like me and a few months later she started dating my friend who she's no longer with.
I know I shouldn't like this girl but I can't get her off my mind. I keep flirting when I meet her, don't exactly want to leave my girlfriend either but she suspects I like her friend and kept insulting her yesterday. But what should I do? How do I get over this? I have no idea if she likes me back either. | Crushes |
Okay, I have a crush on my tattoo artist. I've been a client since late last year. We're both super nerdy. He's obviously an artist, I dabble in the subject.
He's so funny and cute. And we get along so well. He likes my friend and I so much he gives us incredible discounts on sessions. I'm always bringing him gifts, too. I so love the hugs we get when we leave the shop after a tattoo. He makes me so happy!
Then yesterday, I sent him a silly Star Wars pick-up line for laughs. He never responded! I don't know what that means. Should I say, "Oh, that actually meant nothing. Lol."? Or maybe say I do actually like him and try to make it as little awkward as possible? He's a very good artist and, I don't want to mess our professional relationship up.. | Crushes |
I have a crush on this guy, and he knows I like him. My friend(lets call her b) keeps bringing up that my crush likes my other close friend. I feel like b is lying to me because she can be pretty backstabbing, and whenever I bring it up she denys it, and doesn't get mad at me for thinking she lied to me(which is not like her). So I've been thinking to ask my crush(via email) if he likes my friend or not. Should i or shouldn't I send the email? | Crushes |
I'm a soon to be graduate from a 4 year university in the states and have recently developed a pretty serious crush on a girl - enough to go looking for a subreddit dedicated to the topic. I guess you could say I'm getting a taste of my own medicine in a way for being a womanizer for so long, but man this shit is like a big ol' rock in my chest. I guess she saw me at a concert and we had already matched on tinder and she drunkenly said I was hot (turns out her friend did), additionally we had met previously but I didn't remember that. I take her out for some drinks, we both ended up blowing off our friends and she came back to mine. Usually self-loathing would ensue but damn man it was back to highschool shit trying my hardest not to text her. I broke and I texted her again the next night seeing if she wanted to hang out - she wasn't deflecting necessarily but wasn't super enthusiastic either. She invited me over as a response to me inviting her over again, but I asked if it was weird cuz she didn't seem brimming with excitement to see me (at least in the way that I was to see her). In response to me asking if that was weird she said "extremely! no worries". feelsbadman.jpg Next day was a big school-wide college party thing that she didn't attend but I did, and I was just thinking about her all day but again was forcing myself not to text her, but cracked, again. After the day party I was threw a party at my apartment and her and her friends came over, who turned out to be friends with my friends so that was cool. Everyone left, she stayed the night again. Being drunk I told her, "I'm low key obsessed with you" and I just remember some vague statement about her being like you're so smooth and respectful... and you know it too, insinuating that I wasn't being genuine. That was yesterday. Tried to hang out with her again today but she had work, so hopefully I will be seeing her again tomorrow. If anyone reads this lemme know and I'll gladly fill you guys in. But to the title -- I'm very close to failing some classes and not graduating and have a sweet job lined up w/ Oracle and I don't to fuck that up but this girl....
tl;dr puppy love like a mack truck | Crushes |
I (13) Have crush on "L" (13) and L is my best friend "O" (11)'s sister and my sister"M" (15)'s friend.
O and M know, and O is ok with it while M is a bit more teasing.
I want to ask O if he can find out if L likes me, or subtly bring up to L I Like her. I need M to NOT tell L.
I'm also helping O with his own crush... my other best friend "I" (12)'s sister "W"(13) who is best friends with M who I have a crush on kinda, but I'd rather help O who has a crush on W Make it happen. In case this is confusing, I'll update with a chart of overview in a few mins after upload.
EDIT: Here is the collected data http://i.imgur.com/iYKCLsp.png | Crushes |
So I have a friend (I changed the names for private reasons, sorry!), her name is, let's say, jazzy. For the past 2 years, I'm in 8th grade, going on to 9th btw, I've never made eye contact directly because she is just so gorgeous and I'm too embarrassed I might screw up talking to her. We've made eye contact many times but looked away. Although she's like 1 foot taller than me, I can't take my eyes off of her. Anyways, last night, my friends got mad at her because she was trying to interfere with a girl my buddy was trying to break up with and jazzy tried to help by cursing the girl out, which made my friends mad. They told her to stay in her lane and get out of their buisness and called her some messed up shit(I wanted to stand up for her, really, but had no balls to), which made her really guilty and made her feel like a screw up. While I heard this going on in the Skype call, I texted her, asking if she wanted to talk about it. I didn't want her to feel guilty and a mess up in life so we talked. It was sad to know how she felt and even though she got all up in their buisness, I tried to cheer her up with some jokes and facts. What I loved the most is that she acted just like my ex. Anyways, today, it still bothers her about last night. My main question is: How would you guys start a conversation with a girl like this? I just want to talk to her and get to know her better because we are going to different HS's. It hurts to know that she's going to a different HS and college but I want to at least talk to her before she goes. Thanks guys :). | Crushes |
I just felt like speaking my mind:
Back in 4th grade there was this girl in my class (I'll call her Watermelon lol). Watermelon was kind of the "popular girl" in my class. In my school we were given numbers based on our names in alphabetical order and she was #1 so people in my class were like "Woah you're #1!". Anyway apparently she liked me, and I always thought she was cute. The next year, however, she moved away. Not far, but it was about an hour drive away. One day her sister invited my sister to come over for a party. They were in the same grade so they were really good friends. My sister let me tag along so I can see Watermelon again. When I came to visit, we played around a lot like little kids. She had a pool so we had fun swimming and whatnot. She also had a dog and I was really afraid of dogs when I was younger so she would try to get me to pet her dog. I would visit her multiple times, either for another party or just an actual visit. My favorite memory with her was when we both went hiking together. She took me hiking up this mountain starting from the back of her house (she lived in the mountains). I was freaking out like a little girl because I went hiking with sandals and I was afraid I'd fall. She always assured me that she'll make sure I won't fall. We got to the very top at one point and she went down this steep slope, and I was so scared to come down thinking I'll trip and hurt myself. That's where my favorite memory was: I ran down and she caught me, and I remember we were laughing about it a lot.
Time went on though and it became harder for me to visit her with schoolwork and things in the family. I barely had time to find a good time to visit. I currently have no contact with her, other than through her sister but that's kinda weird. It's been over 5 years since I last visited. Im just sitting here and she came up in my mind, and I just felt like typing my story. Ty reddit ☺ | Crushes |
I met this girl on the bus and I just fell in love with her personality and looks. Her name was Catherine, and she had these amazing eyes and her hair was blondish/brunette, right in between those colours. She was dressed very classy with a polo blouse and a Guess jeans. She was mesmerizing and I can't stop thinking about her, i did not manage to get her number because I didn't want to seem so forward. I just cannot seem to get Catherine out of my mind, as we had the most amazing conversations from politics to selfies and then to the dreaded dress on the internet (it's white and gold btw). Just wanted to share that with some people as it is driving me nuts. Oh well, on with single life I go. | Crushes |
There is a senior girl I've known for a while but just recently we started hanging out, and I like her a lot but I'm a sophomore and her family is moving 1000 miles away when school ends and she will go to college 800 miles away at the end of Summer. I've had a hard time figuring out if she likes me or is just being a really nice friend, I mean she said at least 5 times "Its amazing how much we have in common!" And when we went on a school trip she had me sit next to her for a 8 hour bus ride over night. And she was very curious to know when I turn 16 (BTW she's mormon, so dating age is 16), and she had me over for an entire LOTR marathon (13 hours). We also talk a lot at school and what not, and sometimes way after school. But we just started this a month ago and there is only 3 months left for me to say I like her and somehow let her know if she was willing I would find a way to visit her once a month to make a LDR work (Get a job to pay for gas and a hotel, and spend 24 hours driving with me and some other guy.). I hate to continue the next few months maybe even years thinking "what if?" But I don't want seem really weird if it turns out she just thought I was a really cool friend. | Crushes |
Long story short: Known this girl for 5 years. We talk in College (not much this week though since she has been going to work early right after class). Almost never talk through text. I have a crush on her (obviously).
So yea I had a short text convo with her yesterday.
Here is a link of the text convo (Scroll or click to the right to see rest of pics)
Text pic 1: http://s1344.photobucket.com/user/Gamzilla234/media/Text%201_zpsyszbxe83.jpg.html?sort=3&o=3
So yea she hasn’t replied back to the video today so I assume she busy with work again.
So my problem is I don't know when to text her without interrupting her while working.
She usually tells me her day offs when we talk at school but like I said, we haven’t talked much this week since she been going to work early a lot.
So when should I text her? Today? Tomorrow?
Also how should I start off this new conversation? I’m asking because I don’t want to bore her with the “hello, what’s up” comments or sound needy with the “did you watch the video” “you didn’t reply” comments.
I was planning on texting her that a Attack on Titan 3DS game is coming to the U.S. next month (she has a 3DS) and a live action TV series in production. Should I start with that? | Crushes |
I have a crush on [this](http://img3.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20141212222753/freddy-fazbears-pizza/images/d/df/ToyChicaClose.png) and can't seem to get over her? Help?? | Crushes |
So theres a girl in the next class of mine, and she takes the same bus as me so the first day,i took the same bus as her and she stood relatively close to me like near me. But on the second day she stood next to me there were like empty seats and a whole lot of places to stand but she stood next to me and we kinda exchanged glances but nothing more. Shes a shy girl looking from the way she is when i walk by her class. Im really starting to like this girl what should i do. | Crushes |
Had a crush on this girl for 3yrs now who just so happened to be in the same group of close friends consisting of 8 people. One the guys knows about my situation with my crush yet I feel like he's trying to get all up in my shit. Some other members of our group are a little closer with the girl and I think they may be a barrier in order for me to get closer with my crush. Should I cut ties with the group for a bit, regroup and focus on myself because everyone has been blasting different opinions and suggestions. | Crushes |
So I've had a crush on this girl since I was 10. Not sure if 4 year crushes are normal but whatever. I'm homeschooled, and she's homeschooled so we don't see eachother all that often unless we go to co - op (Homeschoolers getting together to study). Now I've always had less then stellar grades, so naturally when the boys and the girls classes merged, I saw this as a bad thing. The only contact I had with her before that was in football, but I suck at football. In fact I suck at all sports. Anyhow back to the point, when I ten and first started liking her, I was extroverted in all the wrong ways. Loud, obnoxious, etc etc. I can still be that way on the rare occasion, but I'm mostly straight up introverted at the moment. Anyhow, over the years I've done some stuff worth of /r/Cringe in front of her, regardless she hasn't treated me any different after any of the inccidents, she's extroverted so she's always super friendly to everyone. Anyhow, recently since our homeschool co - op shut down, I hadn't seen her for awhile. Now there was another kid going to co- op who also had a crush on her, and he's essentially everything I'm not, athletic, "smart", extroverted, charismatic, etc. That means he had a whole year with her I didn't get. Now we've been going to velleyball on the weekends and she plays that. Once again, I suck at sports. Long story short (I feel like there's a penis joke to be had here....) I'm finally mustering up the balls to tell her I like her, but I'm not sure it's wise of a few reasons. A: My family discourages dating until I'm old enough to marry, and even then they want me to "court" Just for the record I have no intention of humoring them. Oh and my dad suspects I like her. B: Her dad is scary. C: Let's get the elephant out of the room, what happens if she says no? | Crushes |
I just got out of a 3 year relationship and I don't know what kind of relationship I want or am ready for, but I know I like this girl. She lives four hours away at uni, and I work full time. She usually goes for the muscly tough guys, and I am a little chubbier than average but also improving (Been hitting the gym almost every day).
She's only had three relationships, they've all ended badly. I'm staying with our mutual female friend, who is also her roommate, for the week while my ex moved her stuff out. We kind of cuddled on the couch the other night. She seemed to view it strangely (didn't shove me away or anything) and I asked my friend why that might be, apparently she didn't have a lot of physical contact growing up and isn't used to it.
My question is should I tell her I like her, or play the long game: keep texting her, hit the gym, make a lot of overtime money, etc., and then ask her out? I haven't had a crush like this since probably middle school. Help! | Crushes |
So he started about a month ago at the restaurant I'm working at. He's a server, and I'm a dishwasher (I know, gross, but it pays the bills). Anyway, he gets to work around all these pretty girls all day and despite them being far more attractive than I am, he still makes excuses to come into my department and flirt with me. I think. I just got out of a long-term relationship and I'm not sure how to recognize flirting anymore. There are a couple things I believe count as flirting but I want confirmation.
1) He makes excuses to come into my department even when he has other things he could be doing. This has become much more frequent in the last few weeks.
2) He initiates conversation and makes sure we're talking every time he sees me (unless we're busy).
3) He play fights with me when I tease him. As in he will drop a whole bunch of cutlery or break a glass, I'll make fun of him for it, and then he'll come over and be like "Oh you wanna go?"
4) All the other servers have noticed how he acts around me.
5) If I'm talking with someone else, I will notice with my peripheral vision that he's looking at me and paying attention to what I'm saying.
6) He actually cares about what I have to say I think. If I ever offer up information about myself, he's interested.
The only reason I don't think he likes me is because I'm a dishwasher and he's a server. I do not look pretty when I'm at work, so in my head it's like, no he couldn't possibly like me.
I need help. | Crushes |
I was rejected not that long ago by a guy, and this was the reason I was given for the rejection (which to my mind, isn't really a 'reason' at all, but I didn't press the matter any further, though I wish I had now).
How far would people agree that this is a) a genuine reason to reject someone or b) a polite way to say "I'm not interested in YOU'' ?
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So I told my crush that I like her couple of days ago. She said she didn't feel the same about me. Now every girl in my class thinks I'm going to ask everyone out in desperacy only for the reason that I asked out another girl in my class a year ago. I'm really not gonna be that way. I sorta regret telling her now. | Crushes |
I'm a sixteen year old guy and my crush, who is in my performance class and one of my best friends, just got a boyfriend the very day a was planning to ask her out.
She talked to me about it and told me before I heard about it from anyone else, which I thought was nice.
I found out that she liked me too and felt terrible for going out with this guy( who is completly full of himself) and kept saying sorry to me over and over. I told her it was okay, but I admit ( to you guys and to her) that I did cry a few (manly) tears.
She seems to sorta regret it already, and has said that she still wants thing to stay the same between us which I think will be hard, seeing as we are in the same central study group and both like each other. Honestly I'm absolutely devastated and cried a fair bit when I got home. | Crushes |
i have this crush i think she likes me these are some of the things she has said hi love, nice ass, Iwant you to rub my clit, have sex with me, what does this mean help? | Crushes |
I'm on a throwaway because he is my internet crush and he would find out about this post on my main. He is the same age as me and he's really cute, and to be honest, I suddenly started feeling warm and kinda tingly whenever he joked with me and talked with me. I realised that I had a crush on him. He's joked about loving me before, but I knew he wasn't serious.
Please help. | Crushes |
First off, this is a male on male crush, so if you don't approve go ahead and back away now please!
So my crush! Hes in a majority almost all my classes and hes pretty cute, and obviosly I have a huge crush on him. He's like 5'10 about two inches taller than me and he has an athletic build and he's a little itimidating sometimes, though he's usually a fun person. He and I are friends and we have our share of jokes and things that we do and were pretty tight. He's kind of the guy who goofs off and class and does ridiculous stuff whenever he can while I'm the opposite. He also has the best brown eyes too. He's usually very kind though the squad he is with is the "party money and sluts" group if you know what I'm getting at. One big problem. I'm bi (maybe, don't know if bi or just gay) and he's straight. Though he has shown that he could be gay as well even though he is pretty masculine. It seems as if he's taking a liking to me and subsequently i get shy. When i try to tall to him I can't really bring enough courage because I didn't want to embarrass myself. So I could totally use help on how to approach him and what would he do if he were to flirt or show interest in me? Looking back on this, it could be relationship advice ^_^; Thanks in advance! <3 | Crushes |
So met this girl online about 3 weeks ago. We talked a bit and I asked her to go out. She told me that she was busy with work but she'd be down another time.
I waited, but finally asked her later the next week. She agreed and we ended up going to a really chill bar/restaurant/coffee house and ended up talking for like 4 hours. I'm kinda awkward so there were some of those moments but she seemed pretty into me.
Well I decided to invite her to go to these cool outdoor trails last Saturday because I wanted to avoid the cliche netflix date because I've heard that girls get sick of that (I'm in college so it's hard to go on expensive dates). It ended up being rainy and cold on Saturday so I texted her about it. She said she would be down to just chill. So I asked her if she'd just be down to listen to some music, talk, and watch netflix. She responded enthusiastically.
I went to the store, bought some drinks, cleaned up my place and kicked my roommate out for the evening (thanks again man lol). After I picked her up and we went to my place we ended up talking and having a few drinks. We watched a movie, and being the nervous kind of guy I am, I waited till about halfway through the movie to put my arm around her.
After the movie we talked a bit until I just decided to go for a kiss (I still have no idea how to go about this without kinda just interrupting the conversation lol). We started making out and things progressed, but to be honest maybe a little too quick for me.
I was still super stoked, and we began getting naked. That's when I realized how fucking gorgeous this girl is. I mean seriously she is the hottest girl I've ever seen naked in person. I have done a lot in the past 3 years to improve how I look (lost ~60 lbs, been lifting, etc) but still feel really self conscious about my stomach especially. The combination of being a little drunk, nervous, dealing with mild depression that's been more severe lately, and being a bit intimidated led to me not being able to get an erection. I had gone down on her before hand so I know I at least partially satisfied her, but I was so mortified. Here was the most beautiful girl I'd ever been with, on the most quickly escalating series of dates I'd ever been on and I couldn't perform.
She said something along the lines of it not being a big deal. Me being the big dummy I am I didn't try anything else to keep things going, but we ended up laying in bed together and watched a bit more TV (keep in mind this is after a good 5 hours later).
Afterwards we went outside and smoked a bowl together before I took her home. We kept good conversation, but I was a little extra awkward from sheer embarrassment. I dropped her home and gave her a hug before she went inside (we were both cottonmouthed and I didn't think a kiss would have been that great, plus I still didn't quite feel we were at the level of a kiss goodnight, I know that sounds silly).
Afterwards I flipped out on myself in my car, just processing the humiliation I felt and feeling like I'd probably just ruined my one shot with her.
The next morning we texted a bit, but she isn't the most enthusiastic texter (and I'm a person who will text someone I like for hours).
Monday, yesterday, I decided to text her and ask her to my spirit org's social event this thursday (I would have asked in person but wasn't going to be seeing her and time was running short). This is where I feel like I really scored. She told me no, but only because she was heading home for the weekend. She sounded genuinely sorry that she couldn't come and my friends agreed that I "was good".
That was the best feeling I've felt in a long time. I'm super into this chick and to know that she's actually into me enough to say what she said let me know that I didn't fuck up. Now I'm just so excited (a bit overly I know for sure) to get to see her again.
So there's my story, folks. I hope everyone else has the amount of luck I had these past few days! I'm crushing on her really hard right now. I know it's a bit silly but I just can't help it.
This girl is clever, funny, likes great music, is a KNOCKOUT, and most importantly, seems REAL. She's got this look that says "I don't really care what others think about me" in a way that I respect so much. I know this is goofy, but I love her hair. It was one of the first things I noticed about her. It's got this kind of messy look that says "I've had a couple drinks already", but she fucking rocks it.
P.S. - on the horrible off chance that she's reading this, please don't judge lol, I just think you're a cool-ass person.
P.P.S. - If anyone actually made it through the book I just wrote, I appreciate you taking the time :)
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So I have known this girl for some time now. We originally met in class a few months ago after I introduced myself to her since she was new and didn't really know anybody. I can't say I immediately felt attracted to her like most crushes I've had in the past, but I remember just finding her interesting and fun to talk to. Anyways about a week later she began dating one of my close friends( they had met on their own somehow) who I was already "wingmanning" since he was shy and had troubles with girls in the past. What's ironic is the fact that it was usually I who he had confided in whenever he felt down on dating, so you can guess that it was very difficult for me to realize I had feeling for his new girlfriend! I feel awful, but just the mention of her name really kills me and I feel left in this weird state of bittersweet emotions. Not to quote the old cliche, but to say that I've never felt this way about anyone before would perfectly describe my feelings towards her. I don't hate my friend or the relationship they have, but thinking about it so often has made me become severely depressed, especially because I'm scared to tell any of my friends out of fear that they might tell him, and risk him hating me. So yeah, i m not really sure what to do now. I've tried to avoid them both but we all have a large group of mutual friends,so I keep eventually running into them . Should I just try to get over it? Any other advice? | Crushes |
I have the biggest crush on one of my professor's this semester, and I know it's probably not a big deal; people have crushes on their teachers all the time, however this is a first for me. He hits all my buttons though, he's mid/late twenties, he's smart, has that messy longish hair look, wears clever tees, he's a gamer-type dork, and he's super tall and gangly, just the type of guys I usually go for. But I'm also intimidated by him because he is just a touch arrogant sometimes, but rather than detract from the overall package that is "him" it merely adds to it. I know that with all the banging on about mentors respecting the boundaries of the mentee that nothing can happen with us as long as I am a student and he is my professor. But oh my gosh, when he's lecturing and he so much as passes by me while he's pacing the classroom, I hold my breath, so I can feel the current he leaves behind when he moves on.
Yeah I know I have it bad, and I wish I had the guts to tell him after the semester is over, but I'm just afraid that I wouldn't be his type. That he'd find me not even on his level intellectually speaking, and maybe he doesn't go for women like me.. I don't know I've found that a lot of "nerds" go for the more aerodynamically built Asian girls, and I think oh my gosh, my breasts and butt are too big, he won't find me kawaii enough. Or rather, he'll want to discuss the inner workings of the cosmos, and I will just sit there like an airhead in total awe of his knowledge and forget that I'm intelligent in my own right, just not .. when it comes to science, but that'd be ok because I wouldn't mind listening to him go on and on about whatever sciencey thing he felt like going on about for hours.
But anyhow, I'm gonna stop gushing and continue to pine for him from afar. I know if anything were to happen in reality that it probably wouldn't come close to the fantasy I've built up in my head, and we probably have personalities that would get on like oil and water.
But I suppose that's why they call it a crush.
If he should ever come across as I know he does frequent reddit sometimes, you introduced me to the "space porn" sub-reddit. I can't fully appreciate it but I thought it was cute how enthusiastic you got about it. :) | Crushes |
He's always opens doors for me, he usually starts the conversation, we have private jokes, and I sometimes catch him staring. Does he like me? Should I tell him? | Crushes |
I'm a Junior in high school and I'm in a spot that I've rarely ever been in before. So lately, I've picked up on two hints that someone(R) might like me. Firstly, I was talking with her friend and she dropped a little hint like "R is pretty cool, you should hang out" (or something of the sort). But it wasn't until the second hint that I began to suspect anything. I'm in Algebra with R, I walk across the room past her seat and she casually tells me that I have nice hair (I got long luscious hair so this is not all that unusual but still a little bit). I reply "thank you" and continue with what I'm doing. That day, I had brushed my hair more thoroughly than I normally do, so at the moment, I didn't think much of it. But now that I'm piecing things together, maybe this girl likes me. Help me out, r/crushes. What do you all think? | Crushes |
So I have crush on this guy. He's really cute, and I think he likes me but I'm not 100% positive. I also have a boyfriend so I don't know actually how I feel about likely this guy as well as my boyfriend. I have never talked to my crush in person though, but it's getting to that point. I've started waving to him in the halls and saying simple things like "Hi, Patrick." in person. But nothing else. We text A LOT! Like for 6+ hours. But the conversation is usually spread out nicely like we won't reply every second but maybe every minute or so. I have started to notice that when I am sitting in the Cafeteria because class starts he glances over me at least 4 or 5 times. (That I catch him) I don't know what I should do. | Crushes |
This girl I have known but never really noticed before helped me through a tough time over face book a few weeks ago, I've been seeing her around at shows more often lately and for some reason I had just noticed or maybe remembered that she has the most gorgeous eyes I've ever seen. And so the last show I saw her at I tried talking to her and when I normally stumble and am not very good at talking to girls everything went so smoothly talking about similar experiences that we continued upon my suggestion to a friend's house after the show. We hung out and talked a while there until our mutual friends disappeared and it was just the two of us on the couch. After she left I messaged her to make sure she got home safe and she thanked me for being so nice. Against my better judgement I've been falling in love with the idea of her. I've been dying to see her again in person to ask her either have a sketching session together or to dinner. She's so unbelievably pretty, and chill, and down to earth. I've been imagining futures of her and I running away together, to Europe or California or some place we can be free and in love, I've never wanted children but I think about how pretty she is and I even think about raising smart little girls with her. I'm so excited for what could be, the anticipation literally stings. | Crushes |
So first day of my last semester of high school a gorgeous girl caught my eye. Previous to about a couple months ago I had no game, but after my last girlfriend broke up with me it all changed. Girls started hitting on me and asking me out all the time for the first time in my life. So isn't it fitting I fell for the one that seems the least interested in me. So far my plan had been to surround myself with other girls in that class to hope she will notice me since I can't talk to her, but I'm worried now I'm that guy that a hipster girl would label as mainstream. I'm gonna stop here before I overthink everything. Advice on picking up a hipster fox? | Crushes |
Hey _____. I want to get to know you, but my social anxiety disorder is preventing me from doing so. The next time I see you in class I will hopefully have the courage to talk to you.
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So I attend these classes and have a huge crush on her since more than a year and half. We are friends and we talk for a while after class while I walk her home. I have an important exam coming up in like 2months n I wanna propose to her but I don't know how to or if I even should right now. She's probably gonna attend the same class next year too but I'm not completely sure. I think she may like me because she's nice to me and always laughs at stuff I say. But she's generally nice to everyone and laughs a lot. This Christmas when I wished her she replied with a heart smiley so I'm thinking that she may like me but not sure about it. A few days ago while we were chatting I said bye with a heart smiley and she didn't reply. The next day she behaved normally to me. I'm so confused now | Crushes |
So this girl I have known for a few years asked me out to lunch. It took a few tries and we both cancelled a couple times because of our schedules but we finally found a day that worked and it seemed to go well. So I tried asking her out again. She said yes. Then she cancels the day of with a crap excuse. So I ask if she even wants to go out. She said yes so we rescheduled. The day comes and she cancels again. So I said screw it and figured if she actually wanted to go out she would come to me. Three days later, x-mas eve, she posts a picture on facebook of her and another guy. At that point, I'm done. She messaged me on Christmas but I kept it short.
Fast forward to new years. She calls me at 1 am, really drunk, asking what party I was at and wanted to go. Where I was had ended and then she suggested me coming to party with her. I was also very drunk and told her there was no way I was driving. After a few minutes, it got to the point where all she wanted was for me to come over and then decided to throw in that her dress was up and that if I was there I could see her "***, gooch, and vag". I said I would come over if I could and she spent the next five minutes saying she was dying and that I "needed to come save her". We spent a little more time on the phone and then she said goodnight. I messaged her the next morning to see how she was because she was VERY drunk and based off her messages, she either doesn't remember our talk or was acting like it didn't happen | Crushes |
The story is pretty generic so I won't bore you too much. I'm sporting this kind of recent crush that I've known since forever. I don't want to be too forward. What are some tips on thoughtful presents ? | Crushes |
So I've had a few conversations with my crush over the last month. Today, when choir practice ended, she was about to go out, she was in a hurry. Right before she runs out, I ask her: "Do you wanna hang out sometime after choir?", she gives sort of a surprised-WTF face and says: "Sure", just before she runs out. She's sort of shy/insecure, so I don't know what to make of her reaction. If she was creeped out, well... fuck. But if she's not against it and the reaction was surprised but genuine, what do I do now? Do I just go up to her after choir and say "Wanna hang out?"? | Crushes |
So I have crush, let's call her Z. This girl really seemed like she liked me back at first, laughing at every thing I said, and always talked to me whenever possible. Long story short, she figured out o liked her and almost never talks to me again. IMO I'm a "meh" funny person but I'm creative to come up with little remarks that make everyone laugh. She laughs a those still but never anything else, she doesn't have the usual conversation with me about her day,.And I'm getting sad. She recently moved seats in Science, and that's where we talked the most. My friend, R, also has a crush on said Z. We're mature enough not to let that get in the way of our friendship. However, R told her he liked her but she still talks to him. She never really talked to him the way she did with me but still it hurt a little. Any help on getting her to talk again? I don't want to go out considering I'm a young teen and don't believe in dating in my grade.
TL;DR: I like a girl, she talked to me alot, now she doesn't, help please. | Crushes |
Hello Reddit. My name is Elaine (lol not really) and I have no idea what to do about this crush. I've known this guy for about a 1 1/2 years. We're pretty good friends. We were joking around in LA and he started messing with the sleeve of his sweater. It's a very old sweater and he started ripping a piece off. He hit me with it a couple times, then dropped it in my lap. I was confused and he kinda smiled at me. Me, being the fucking weirdo I am, kept this string. My best friends, Katie and Dayna, almost automatically started teasing me. I love to hold on to the little things, annd this to me represents the memory. I really do like him. Whenever I'm talking to him I tend to talk in one of two ways. The first one is rambling about anything to not switch into mode 2. Mode 2 is shy, quiet, stuttering, WHILE I BLUSH. This morning Dayna walks up to him in PE, our first period, and pulls him to the side. She won't tell me what she asked. I don't know what to do. HELP
Tl;Dr: Friend asked crush question. Won't tell me what it was. | Crushes |
I guess the TL;DR would be that I tremendously hurt an amazing friend and companion. To the point I gave up on reconciling with her. She's now back in my life and I couldn't be happier. We kissed last night, with hopefully more to come.
START OF THE STORY: So there's this girl. I've been crazy about her for a long time and we were very close friends in elementary school (were 19 now). We went to different schools for a while and lost touch, but two years ago we became very close friends again. Just friends. She's my favorite person to talk to: intelligent, inciteful, open minded, sweet, unique, and just interesting. We would spend all night talking about each other (it kind of hung there that I liked her, but we never acknowledged it. Nevertheless, she knew), our feelings, the overwhelming nature of life, other people, good/bad, and other deep unknowns. Well, I screwed up. Big time. I suffer from depression, mostly from little to no self appreciation. I usually think people hate me and I felt the need to lie to a friend about her, that I slept with her. Stupid. Stupid. Stupid. We didn't talk for a year, up until August when she came back to town. I saw her at a house concert and tried to avoid her in my obvious embarrassment. She came up to me though and we talked...a lot. I wholeheartedly apologized and I cried and hugged her. She never said she forgave me, but we've been steadily hanging out since. In the past couple months we have both opened up and shared more than I thought was possible. I explained to her what was going through my mind at the time I lied, and how that was a turning point for me to really grab the reigns on how my depression controls me. She understood! I'm so happy about that, the sort of closure that leads to a whole new path of which I have no realistic guess what it is about. We've actually cuddled and been semi-intimate this past month, but it was purely a friend thing. I was very content with that. Well, she came over for thanksgiving dinner with my family. We had an excellent time, I'm very blessed to have friends and family that get along. I went to my bed to lay down after dinner and cards and she laid next to me. We talked about my family for a bit but at one point I just found myself looking into her eyes. Nothing out of the ordinary for me, but she looked different. Almost as if the time I hurt her never even existed. I sighed heavily, and that prompted her to ask me what I was thinking. "Like Hell I'm going to say it, I'll show her," I thought. I leaned forward and softly and quickly kissed her. When I pulled away she was smiling (a smile that drives me up the wall, my favorite one). She let me kiss her! She liked it!! I kiss her again, longer and certainly with more oomf. Then my aunt walked by, I left my damn door open. She made a smart comment to my grandmother and laughed. Oh well, when they left we kissed some more. You know those things you wait for, but you never really expect to happen? This was definitely one of those things. I know she doesn't want commitment right now, but I'm perfectly happy with this. She's my best friend, my borderline guardian angel, and it may sound weird but I want to show my love and appreciation for her physically. And, hey, I was able to do it! Thank you for reading my little story. I'm just very happy to be close with my friend/crush again, even if it doesn't mean a relationship in the near future. | Crushes |
My crush is a shy girl who likes stuff like anime and drawing. We're together in choir and she doesn't seem to have many friends. Last weekend we were at a party, she was sort of alone in the corner, so I talked to her and we seemed to have a fun conversation until she had to go. Today in school, I saw her in front of me on her way to class. I say hi to her, she doesn't notice (she's on her phone and doesn't seem to realize I'm talking to her). I lightly poke her to get her attention and say "Hi", smiling. She smiles back and says "hi". We then proceed to go to separate classrooms without saying a single word. Was this awkward. Did I come out as weird? | Crushes |
At the start of the academic year I met a guy and passivly offered him a lift to lab as a gesture that I expected (hoped) him to decline. He said Yes. So, driving down we talked and I got to know him and found we are super compatible, like fucking clones.
Now it gets crappy. He revealed he has a girlfriend and seemingly immidiatly after that she had cheated on him. I ruled him out (though it killed me). I have started giving him a ride to and back from college as he lives on my route. On the journeys he is very..."touchy" Making the ocasional sexual tension jokes. Not even to mention the invites to feel how soft his hair/skin are in the mornings...I'm doing my very best to not care about him, I am known for being a hard-ass. But He's making it very hard with his Texts calling me "babe" and spewing xxxx's at me, That I can't seem to avoid recipricating.
The idea that this might be the one and only person that I have ever liked. (I'm 21) Is enough to make it all that much worse. As I said I'm know for being the alone type. I don't like this. I'm at the point now were I need to change my classes. We still have most of the year left and if this goes on I think I'll lose my mind.
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I study pretty late at high school so I'm a kinda older than most of the student. I'm actually 19 y/0 and she is only 16 going to 17. It's been a while since I talk to her or even making a eye contact. You see I could hardly say anything to her ever since she is so nice to me that she even cook a lunch to me once. No other people especially girls had done that to me. I felt touch kinda in love? but at the same time clueless. I was so afraid I'm going to screw things up that I stop communicating with her. Now, I felt like I am biggest jerk to her and I want to make things right.
Guys at the age of me are probably f*****g lot of people. Well, I'm not into that. My hope is only to find the right girl and that's it.(kind of corny I know)
There are so many factors that's holding me off. First is I'm older so I felt kinda big brother to everyone in high school. Second is of course it's still high school, I don't know if this is the right time.
Guys and GIrls, I really need your help. Girls what do you expect a guy to do if this happens to you. Guys I know I suck but this is the first time that girl is been this nice and close(use to) to me. | Crushes |
I asked reddit if a girl like me after she was acting flirty with me. this girl I've had a crush on for over 2 years has been using me for the attention and doesn't care about how I feel in any way. But whenever she walks into the room I still get nervous and can't think of what to say. I'm an idiot. Some people will probably tell me to grow a pair of balls and call me a 10 year old. But what 17 year old doesn't have a crush at some point. Yesterday she asked if I have scissors she could use and I said " I think I do" but she but she thought I said "I intend to" She was laughing for about 5 minutes and I had to convince her to tell me what she thought I said. Later in the conversation I said "Nice guys finish last because they make sure their partner finishes first" She said "I hope this isn't too much information, but <bf's name> isn't very nice then. Not in anyway too much information. If she was joking, that's funny. If she wasn't joking, that's even funnier. The thing is I've never known whether or not I should confront her about using me for the attention. I have social anxiety and I never really learnt how to talk to people. I'm just awkward to talk to in any situation. The reason why I still let her do it is because I have depression and when ever she does something flirty, for a split second, I think she actually likes me, and it makes me happy, but then I remember that she doesn't mean anything and she's just using me and I feel like shit again. I've never had a girl like me before and it feels like shit. The fact that I get made fun of for just being of legal age for sex and still being a virgin shows how shit my generation is. I wish I and a couple of chicks from reddit were wrong and she did like me. (We are in the complete opposite social groups). Just the other day she sat on my lap and starting moving/wriggling around and when I told her to stop she just laughed and asked why.
So what do you guys think? If you want i can tell you other things she's done in the past. Not hard to remember. | Crushes |
NOTE: I hope you haven't satisfied your curiosity, now read ahead.
Hi.
I would introduce myself formally, but this is the internet, so fuck you. But be prepared for somewhat of a fence of text, yo.
Before we start, I need to fill you in with some info.
1) I am well known throughout my school; 2 out of 3 people know my name. Popular enough to be respected by Lesser Beings, the Imperfect, and Weak, but with a limited circle of friends because everyone is either gay (not actually homosexual), a pussy (definitely), or annoying as fuck (50% of my school).
2) Every student in the campus has a class period, where you can work on homework, read, talk, or use your phones. It usually depends on who your teacher is, though, it is called T3.
Back on track.
Sixth grade had begun, it was a glorious year; mainly because one of my female bestfriends was going through puberty and was displaying her pre-mature cleavage (she actually once wore a low cut shirt to school and sat next to me every period, just for me to see, but that's a tale for another day), and the fact that everyone became my bitches, and those who defied my regime got manhandled (I got into a fight with a black guy, simply because we had a substitute for science, and we thought we had become gods, once again, a tale for another time).
Eventually sixth ended, summer rolled in, and slowly faded away; leaving us with on the front doors of middle school. I was happy there, everything was going great; there was a cute girl who could potentially be my High Stewardess Side Chick of Bat Shit Insane Hormones, My Royal Catalyst of Puberty, and His Majesties Majestic Beast. But I moved away when I was 2 months deep into seventh, and-skip, skip, skip, skip, skip, skip, skip- so yeah.
I moved back to into my old and currently current school to attend eighth, so I only missed most of seventh grade. So anyways, I miss the first three days of school, and when I get here, I get my schedule and everything and head to first period, then -skip, skip, skip, skip, skip, skip, skip, skip skip-, then my T3 begins. I'm late, and all the seats are taken, the teacher gives me fake leather recliner chair and pairs me up with a 4 peep table. It's three guys (me included), and two girls. I barely pay attention to them and focus on a guy who I have known since 4th grade. The teacher interrupts with some shit, and let's us talk for the remainder of class. She suggested we'd talk to each other to know our mates better. One girl is entirely focused on me. Let's call her B.
"Hey, what's your name?"
"Did you just move here?"
"How old are you?"
"Your quiet, aren't you?"
I thought it was a bit strange, but then it's not the first time where the ladies are interested in me. I gave it no thought and when T3 ended, I went to my elective and -skip, skip, skip, skip-, I talk to B multiple times over several weeks, when I start accepting her as a acquaintance. B joined my every-day-walk with some other girl I had become dirty-joke friends with. I eventually abandoned Dirty Joke Girl for B, and I realized she was actually kind of nice, and decent looking.
So for a few solid week's, we were pretty much inseparable, becoming constantly together with some awkward conversations because I didn't really know what to say; because she is in that stage where you barely know her, you simply cannot be mean, or joke around with nothing to joke about, and it's just weird.
We always came walking out of T3 together, people assumed we were a 'couple'. I was a bit tempted to say we were, but I learned the hard way never fall for a girl who isn't falling for you. I said nah, and she has given me several hints such as:
- Always following or waiting for me.
- Long eye contact
- Calling be her bestie and introducing me to her friends
But I think I lingered to long for her to stay in the boat. She now:
- Talks to other guys instead of me
- Had a 'boyfriend' (I noticed only smiles and conversations)
- Currently has another 'boyfriend' right now (same as before, I just see smiles and small physical contact such as pushing and dragging)
- When people concur that we are a couple, she says I am her 'cousin'. Be are male and female lookalikes.
She has asked for my phone number multiple times, but since I don't have service, I told her it doesn't really matter.
She still walks with me, but I feel as if I'm losing the connection between us. She takes longer getting her stuff together (perhaps in attempt to get rid of me), and purposely walks different directions in the hall to met up with her boyfriend which results me as a third wheel. But a godly type of third wheel. But the pros are:
- Getting some dirty talk here and there
- Actual sentimental conversations
- She actually said she wants to fuck me, but later claims he only likes me as a 'friend'. It could have been fear of rejection, just a joke, nervousness, or actual truth. Don't really know, later into the converse she says,
"You know you love me."
To which I replied,
"So?"
And purposely bumped into her, expecting something flirty related in return, but just she just told me a joke, to which I cringed in my head, but chuckled outloud. To clarify, this crush thing is sort of complicated to explain. It's more of an on-and-off sort of thing. I also have occasional mood swings, which doesn't help.
So tell me Citizens of Reddit, Inhabitants of the Internet, did I fuck up? Any advice would be appreciated. Similar experiences, thank you. Jokes, yes pls.
TL;DR: fuck you and read my shit. | Crushes |
(I am a freshman in high school, 7/10. She is a sophomore, 8-9/10.)
I met her about 3 weeks ago in Bio (she sits behind me, and let's refer to her as E)
She seemed to just keep talking to me. E found me to be cute and she said I was her "favorite". E then asked if I had a favorite and implied that it should be her. I respond that I don't have a favorite yet, her friend gives her a nudge and I overhear "he said yet".
Next few days we exchange small talk and at the end of the week I realize I have fell for her, so I tell her she was my favorite too. E then smiles and says that she felt special.
Monday, I walk in and E has this look of joy on her face when I walk in. More small talk ensues, some more "looks" the next couple of days too.
Friday again, and I quickly give her my number and leave like a beta. She doesn't text me on the weekend.
Monday rolls around, I ask her if she forgot to text me, E says she'll do it later that day. I get the feeling that she maybe didn't want to text me, but she ended up texting me before I know it.
We have the same small talk over the phone like we do in school, but she is sometimes slow to reply. When she does, she explains why she was slow and I half the time find it to be an excuse.
Thursday and Friday E appears to not be talking as much to me. I fear that she is beginning to move on. I also see her talking to a couple of other guys.
Any help you can give me, reddit? Does she like me, and should I tell her that I do? If I shouldn't tell her/she's starting to move on, how can I find a way to bring us closer? | Crushes |
Has a boyfriend, is a bit older, and is WAY out of my league, even if neither of those other things were true. Somehow despite all of that, we've become friends through/within the class that we share and this crush has become a little bit obsessive now because I end up looking forward to that class exclusively for that reason, and getting legitimately saddened when it gets cancelled. She's really smart, funny, kind, beautiful, talented. I usually (read: never) crush this hard. It's immensely frustrating, especially when there isn't anything sensible that you can do about it. I'm also really bad at talking to her; I get all flustered and say incredibly stupid things. I called her "aerodynamic" once. Yeah, it's bad. And maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I don't catch her looking at me way more than I'm comfortable with.
Not pursuing this. Can't. Just needed to vent some of the frustration. | Crushes |
Ok, so this has been on me for a year now and i an glad i can finally find a place to get this off my chest. I have this crush on a girl that is close friends with one of my best friends. The thing is, I cant tell anyone because my friends bet 5 bucks that I'd have a crush on her by the end of the year....
She really likes to make fun of me (in a nice way) and manages to think of a new nickname for me every month! We sit very close to each other in instrumentals and we are both good at it too. Do you guys think i have a shot at her? | Crushes |
I have a classmate who I hit it off pretty well with eerily fast. That's not abnormal; I'm a fairly charismatic guy even though I keep largely to myself, so on average there is one or two people in every class that I seem drawn to in some way. These friendships are alarmingly temporary. Sometimes they're also like crushes, but the difference is that they are totally fleeting. She's different.
For one thing, the very first thing she said to me was a red flag. In reference to a sweatshirt I was wearing: "Hey, my boyfriend graduated from that school!"
**Strike 1**, kiddo, right out of gate.
Alright, fine, so we're becoming chatty. We talk about where we live (she's from New York), our hobbies (she likes figure skating), how we feel about the class we're in. It's all really nice; she's well-spoken, funny, kind.
Half-a-dozen exposures like this, I think it's time that I can search her on Facebook without being a total creep. Maybe, like, 60% creep. Found her on Facebook. First thing I see (besides the boyfriend)?
Olympic rings.
Wow, she must've gone to see the Olympics! That's so cool, I should ask her about that!
Oh wait...no, that's a picture of her...on the ice?
Ok, long story short, she's an Olympic figure skater, and apparently competes quite a bit and is moderately well-known (I'm going to stay away from names, just in case). I am absolutely floored. She said she did figure-skating as a hobby!
Go on Youtube to find a video of a performance of hers. Holy shit, you guys. She's pretty incredible. It wasn't an Olympic event, it was some other competition, some championship where she placed pretty high, but she did compete in Sochi 2014, even though I didn't find a video of that.
So, **Strike 2**: She's basically famous. Not a household name, no, but girl's got her own Wikipedia article, and that's way more than I have.
So there's already two phenomenally good reasons for me to **just. Drop. It.** I'm a logical guy, I like logical things; this is driving me up the wall because I honestly think about her all the time. We exchange glances in class all the time (yes, *we* and *each other*, I've caught her and she's caught me). It's insanity.
Oh, but this wouldn't be complete without a 3rd strike.
**Strike 3**: I don't love her. How could I, I don't even really know her. You can't love something you don't know. It's not a lust thing either; she's beautiful but whatever, a lot of people are. No, she's just someone who I grew really fond of really fast for no good reason (against all reason, in fact). I've been in love before, I've had a relationship before. It was the most beautiful thing I'd ever been a part of, and it blew up catastrophically. I know the difference between love and a hard crush; this is definitely the latter.
And yet, here I am, venting out my frustrations in the middle of the night under a throwaway just for precaution. I'm not going to make a move; that would be retarded. I am going to keep trying to hang out with her though, despite the fact that I know it's fruitless (see Strikes) and because it'll probably end up being torturous. She's just so cool.
God fucking damn it.
And by the way, that stuff I found on the Internet shouldn't really count as creeping. Everything I saw was publicly readily available. It's not like I was digging for her address or her biographical information. | Crushes |
I'm a recent college graduate and (surprise, surprise) I have a MAJOR crush on one of my (former) professors. He is my tutor at one point, and the last class I took with him was a year ago. But this last semester, we'd meet in the halls and sometimes we'd talk. Gradually, I'd pass by his cubicle and we'd end up talking for an hour or more. About my dreams, his career, my relationships, his soon-to-be ex, music, movies we like, etc. He's so very smart and has such an admirable work ethic, I would've never though of doing anything improper...
But I'm leaving town in a week, and I'm not a student anymore. Should I say something? Ask him out for coffee, a drink? Anyway, at least now it's out of my brain... thanks reddit :3 | Crushes |
He's such a sweet and kind guy. He's so "chill" and fun to talk with. Easy on the eyes and ears, creative, smart, upbeat, a bit quirky, just overall different from guys I know. We get along so far. I'm honestly surprised that he doesn't have a girlfriend already.
Unfortunately for me, this is just a bout of infatuation. I'll eventually lose interest or I'll find out something about him that will burst this bubble.
Even though I know this won't last long, I can't help but smile at his corny jokes and sense of humor or whenever we talk in general. I think about him more than I'd like to admit as well.
I sometimes wonder if he thinks about me outside of the times we do talk.. Either way, let's see how long this crush will last! | Crushes |
I knew who she was and she is beautiful but wasn't my friend yet, so I met her through my friends in a party (all of them know her, but she studies at another school so we don't see each other often) and I started texting her for a week or so, and I became a big friend of hers. As the days went on we started texting a whole lot less, and I always tried to keep up with new topics and didn't want her to stop talking to me because I really like her. What do I do now? We have met with a couple times, but every other conversation was through text messages. I really am considering opening up to her and telling her how I feel but if I do it it has to be personally, and to ask her out somewhere via phone is hard.
I need help! | Crushes |
pls help my head is a complete mess right now i have no idea
what to do | Crushes |
So me and this guy like each other and we know that the other likes the other but ever since we started high school we run into each other all the time but don't speak a word. I don't know if it's just that it's the first days of school and everything is crazy or if things are really awkward between us. I feel like I should make a effort to say hi but I don't know! Should I try to break the ice or should I wait for it to thaw? | Crushes |
Nicest, most clever, most hard working person I have ever met. We have some commonalities, we love to joke. She's older than me, has a boyfriend (gotten shortly after I met her) and within two years I may never see her again, or at least for a long time. I am inspired and vexed by her at the same time. At this point my only hope is that I have made some impression on her life and that I can work to maybe be more like her in time. Most likely have to just move on from those thoughts and continuing being friends. Just a little rant of mine. | Crushes |
Over the course of five years, I've gone through phases of being attracted and not attracted to one specific person. In between I've had a girlfriend and other crushes but for some reason this one just keeps coming back.
Currently in the middle of another recurrence right now, I know from experience that it will probably go away in a month or two.
I was wondering if anybody else has crushes like this? I've never met anybody who has. | Crushes |
Warning: this is going to be long. You don't have to read my long story, but I would love to hear some of your stories!
I am sure a lot of you can relate, you have a huge crush on someone and you just want to talk about them all the time. Even if no one reads this post, I will still be satisfied by simply putting it out there. It makes me feel like a high schooler again (even though that was only 2 years ago for me) and I don't know if I love the high that this feeling brings or if I hate the uncertainty and lack of control over the situation.
So now to my story (names may or may not be real, you will never know). I met Daniel our freshman year at school. We were both in this selective honors college program that works with social and environmental issues in our state. There were only about 20 people in the whole program so we were a pretty tight-knit group. We all lived in the same dorm, had a class together three days a week and occasionally took weekend trips to various locations to do volunteer work and research. I don't really know when Daniel and I became good friends, but at some point in the semester he started sitting next to me in class and coming with me to lunch in the cafeteria after. We studied together a few times and he started inviting me to dinner off campus at least once every other week. I always offered to pay but he would always argue that since he invited me he should pay. He only called it a date once but he said in a way that made me think it was just a "friend date", so I assumed he did this with all his girl friends. I thought he would take our mutual friend Aryanna out just as often.
He is in a frat on campus and during our sophomore year he lived in the house, only two blocks from my apartment. He continued to take me out all the time. I started dating this guy, Kevin, at the beginning of the year. At first Kevin seemed like one of the sweetest people ever, but he slowly introduced emotional abuse and cycled it with apologies and that old sweetness. It was a textbook cycle of abuse, but when you are in a situation like that it is really hard to see. Well, Daniel did not like Kevin from the get-go. He ran into Kevin and I one day when Kevin and I had just started dating, and even though Daniel was really polite throughout the conversation I could tell he really didn't like Kevin. Kevin saw it too and would start arguments with me every time I brought up Daniel, saying that I was a slut for being friends with a guy that was attracted to me. I had no clue that Daniel felt anything other than friendship towards me at that time so I didn't understand why Kevin was so upset about my friend. But Daniel was intuitive, and I am pretty sure he knew what Kevin was like even before I knew. He would text me all the time, just asking how I was, and if I mentioned that Kevin and I had been fighting (which was a lot) Daniel would invite me to hang out, either going to a bar, a restaurant, or just go hang out at the frat house. I really needed someone to just be a friend during that time, and he never made a move on me.
I had no clue, this entire time that Daniel had any feelings for me other than friendship. I don't even know when my feelings for him developed. It just started some time during freshman year and looking back it's almost as if they were always there. I pushed them to the back of my mind for a while when I was dating Kevin and then dealing with the aftermath of that relationship, but they were always there.
This summer Daniel got an internship at a major investment banking firm on Wall Street. He texted me every few days, just talking about different things. They were short conversations, but I much prefer that to text conversations that last hours (even though you wouldn't be able to tell by the length of this post). One message that stands out in my mind was "Message me if you ever think of me ;)". It's significant because he isn't really one to send emoticons. I got coffee with our mutual friend, Aryanna, and mentioned it to her. She thought it was hilarious that I had no clue that Daniel has a thing for me. She said that he has been crushing on me since freshman year and it was a pretty well established fact among our friends. I am pretty clueless when it comes to stuff like that, but she still found it amusing that I was the last one to know.
He got back in town a week ago, but I was out of town at that time. He called me as soon as he had moved into his new apartment asking me what I was doing and if I could hang out. I told him that I would tell him as soon as I was in town. He called me again the night before I was supposed to drive back, inviting me to this political talk on campus, the kind of thing we both love to go to. Then, while I was in the car driving back he texted me a few times asking about my ETA and when I wanted him to pick me up.
I got home and got ready in record time. I looked pretty hot if I do say so myself. I dressed really nice and used the excuse that I was going to be meeting some state representatives at the talk. He picked me up and we went to the talk. He said he really hoped that there would be food there and I joked that of course food was his top priority for the night. He said "Well, no, seeing you was my top priority." During the talk we were mostly quiet aside from a few comments or silent communication of exasperation through sidelong glances. After I introduced myself to a few of the representatives and made some connections, with Daniel at my side, following me around the whole time. When I was done Daniel asked me if I wanted to go to the diner right off campus, our usual dinner place.
There we shared an order of these amazing cheese, sour cream, onion and mushroom hashbrowns that I always order and talked. This wouldn't be all that significant except one little detail. Most of the talk was playful, slightly flirty banter mixed around serious political discussion, which is normal for us. But I noticed he kept looking at my lips. It was just quick little glances from my eyes to my lips, but they were often enough that I noticed.
When he was driving me home he started talking about how we both look very "southern". It came out of nowhere, we had been talking about nothing even similar to that topic. But he said that he dresses like a frat boy (meaning nice shirts and kahkis, I don't think I have ever seen him in chubbies) and I dress *kind of* like a sorority girl. He said the two of us have a very "southern" facial and body structure. It was him complimenting me in his own kind of weird way.
Now here is where I am a complete idiot. We get to my house and he pulls up in the driveway, unbuckles his seat belt, turns off the car and looks at me. I had expected him to actually get out of the car but since he didn't it kind of caught me off guard. I talked to him for a little bit and then said "good luck with studying!" and got out of the car. When I got to the door I turned around and he was looking at me. I waved and opened my door. He didnt pull out of the driveway until I was inside. I feel like the biggest idiot ever. I should have asked him to walk me to the door or something. It was obvious that he had been looking for an invite when he turned off the car and unbuckled his seatbelt. And I had completely missed it. I really suck at this.
Well today I was at training for something on campus and we had an unplanned break in the middle of the day. I knew Daniel had been on campus earlier so I texted him asking if he was still on campus. He responded saying yes 12 minutes later, about the time it takes to drive from his apartment to campus. When he met me in the library he was still carrying his keys, so I am pretty sure he drove to campus after getting my text. He told me that he was coming to the library anyways to change his major, but when we sat down he didnt pull out his laptop. I asked him if he was going to work on it and he said no, he wanted to give me his attention. We talked for a bit, joking, being a little flirty. When I said I had to go back to training he asked me when I would be done. He didn't follow that with an invite to do anything, but we will see, he has a tendency to sometimes invite me out 10 minutes before he wants to go.
It is so nice to get all of that out!
I have been trying to figure out how to make the first move. I had a great opportunity the other night before I got out of his car, but I obviously did not take it. I really don't want to just come out and say it because that isn't really how either of us work. We both have been called cold by people before if that explains anything. I already texted him last night saying that I had fun hanging out with him and that we should do it again soon. He said "Of course!". I think I am just going to slowly work my way up to it, touching him more while walking or talking, complimenting him more, inviting him out more. I will figure out based on his reaction to those things if I want to kiss him or not. I guess I will just take it day by day.
If you read this far, I appreciate that! If you have any advice on anything, I will take it.
**TL;DR I have have had a major crush on my guy friend who has apparently liked me the whole time as well. Things between us are starting to escalate, but it's very slow.**
Edit- Thinking about inviting him tomorrow night to see this band that I made friends with when they came through on a tour last year. Hopefully that goes well and maybe once I get a few beers in me I'll make a move! | Crushes |
Hello everyone ! I hope everyone's okay, myself I'm kind of good lately.
First of all, I'm a French guy so sorry for my bad grammar, and I'm currently a student. To describe myself in few words, I'm really shy, kind of awkward guy (panic !), but I have a lot of humor too, and I'm a really nice one :). I'm 21 years old.
Also...I'm falling in love really easily, but I've never got a girlfriend, I had some stories but...never went too deep because of my fault (mostly). In the last few months, I had one with a crush at that moment, but she lived too far away for her. Anyway...
So, about the traineeship : To finish my studies, I have to make one, and I'm working in a company which takes care of homeless, not in a direct contact, but behind a desk by splitting people between buildings which can host them (or not...). This service is mostly composed of womens, and they make a lot of jokes, they are pretty funny and young in their minds even if they have at least ten years older than me. So every day is different :).
As you can guess, this service is divised between many offices and I'm in the main one. Two weeks after I started, a girl appeared and they presented her, telling she's working half time. She's named Lisa, she's cute and seems really young compared to the others...But I'm not a great physiognomist so I can't tell her age. I know I fall in love pretty easily, but ... I'm not in love, it's just I have a crush on her, I'm happy to see her every day, to see her smile (she smiles at anytime !) even if I've never talked to her. I don't want to seem lazy in this job, so most of the time I only talk about work (and I don't talk a lot...). And she's not in the same room as mine, so we see each other only three or four times in a day.
The good thing is : My boss decided to sign me again for the next months ! But I don't know... Maybe it's a great opportunity, to at leasst know her just a bit, or ask my co-workers about her... I don't know if I should make a step forward. | Crushes |
We only just met around a fortnight ago, but I have spent around 3 hours every day hanging out with her and her mutual friends. I've never felt so happy around someone before.
The only thing putting me off is that she previously had a reputation of using guys for sex. I really want to ask her out/ask her out alone or something like that, I don't know, I really don't know what to do, but I really, really like her. :-/ | Crushes |
As a junior in high school, I have had a crush on the same boy since freshman year. I think one day he laughed at a joke I made, and it just grew and grew from there. I still think he's terribly attractive, funny, outgoing, and he seems nice (he reminds me of Hiccup from HTTYD). On his facebook he has pictures of him going mountain-climbing and in firefighter gear, and I know he likes video games. Long story short, I find him to be "hot shit".
One of my friends told me he's lazy/doesn't try as hard as he could, but I'm the world's biggest procrastinator so that doesn't deter me at all. I've tried to make myself stop liking him, but there's always something pulling me back. I've told one of his closer friends that I like him, and I've told many of my friends, so I'm sure word spread to him at some point. However, I don't really think he likes me, as I've gotten no signs at all that he might.
I'd love to get over him, but something inside me loves clinging to the idea of a crush like that. I swear, I don't even want to date anyone else because of my impossible hope that he may someday like me back (seriously, I don't want to consider dating anyone because I feel like I'd always regret not telling him how I felt, and no longer having the chance). I've considered asking him to prom next year just to see what he'd say, but as an incredibly shy person who can barely talk to people she doesn't know, this is a concern to say the least. Let's just say that I forget how to speak when he walks by in the halls.
If anyone reads this, what should I do about the crush? I don't know why, but I really, really like having a crush on him. Summer's here, so I won't have a chance to say anything to him, but does anyone think I should do something about it? I figure word has probably reached him that I like him (do guys tell each other if they know a girl has a crush on them or what?), so I feel like he either A. Doesn't want a girlfriend or B. Doesn't really care for me. Should I try dating other people or what?
P.S. I'm not ugly, but I'm not flawless either. I don't wear makeup so I'm not a stunning 10 or anything like that, but I've been told I'm cute. Also, I'm 16 if that makes any difference. Still young and naive, but hopeful I guess. | Crushes |
I don't know if I belong here either. I'm nearly 30 and at a glance this may or may not be a middle school centric sub. Whatever.
Okay so i'm just about to turn 30 and a few months ago my life feel apart when I ended a very long relationship. I had to move back with my mom (yes I'm expecting neckbeard comments) and I lost most of my possessions because I had no way to get them 700 miles back home. My life is now super complicated and I'm horribly depressed, but I'm dealing with that as best I can. I'm actually going to the gym specifically to wear myself out so I can sleep, not because I'm single and want too improve myself. I'm actually running myself into the ground. It's honestly probably not physically or mentally health but it helps my mood and sleep so whatever.
So i started a new job a couple weeks ago. So did this DROP DEAD GORGEOUS GIRL. She also seems very sweet as well. I don't know allot about her but we talk to one another a few times a day. We haven't been flirting really but I feel like there is some curiosity on both sides. There have been a few occasions when I was fairly sure we've both been caught checking the other out. She's askes me questions every day that could be general curiosity or could be interest. She asked the lady who was training us to find out what my last name was. After finding out that I get dropped off at work instead of driving she asked who gives me a ride(my mom and my sister). One night she asked me how long I have to wait for a ride. Last night she asked where I live. She didn't know where it was but I think she's wanting to offer me a ride at some point. Last night she called me over basically to let me stare at her ass. She asked me to take a look at something on a big warehouse inventory rack that is eye level and then proceeded to climb halfway into the rack the second I looked in, which basically gave me zero choice but to have her ass right in my face. I don't see how someone wouldn't realize this.
Anyway, I think there might be a little bit of attraction there, but my life is a mess. I'm depressed and don't have my basic adult resources together. I'm trying to rebuild my life right now so I really have to be selfish. I can't dedicate to a true relationship just from a practical standpoint, let alone whether or not I'm emotionally ready for one. I'm really just looking for a fling and she seems like to nice of a person for that. I just don't want anyone to have to deal with the drama that is my life.
On top of this there is one last problem that bothers me. Like I said, I'm about to turn 30. She's 21. I myself am not exactly okay with that age gap. I'm pretty sure she doesn't know how old I am. I'm deceptively young even with a beard. This sucks.
This girl is amazingly beautiful. She has amazingly sexy lips which aren't even something I ever notice on a woman. Great smile. She has a cute nose piercing which has made me realize that she has a cute nose, again not a thing I notice ever. Sexy legs. I'm not a leg man. She doesn't have much of an ass, and I am very much an ass man. I like big butts and I cannot lie. But she's got a lot going for her. She's a little taller than me and thin but not anorexic which is good. I usually like short girls. She's also got amazingly even toned, deep brown skin that I find pretty damn attractive.
She's got allot of things about her that aren't what I typically go for but that drive me wild. I can't get her out of my head. I know I'm probably heavily infatuated with the idea of something completely new, but I just want to kiss her and wrap or bodies together. I've been horrifyingly lonely for much longer than the few months I've been single which really sucks. I just needed to put some thoughts together and clear my head. Um depressed and tired and writing my thoughts out helps a little. I think I can get some sleep now.
Tl; Dr: she drives me crazy. I'm too old and my life sucks. | Crushes |
I've known him for nearly two years, had a slight crush on him for about one. He knows I 'used' to have a crush on him- I told him I don't like him anymore. He talks to a lot of girls, which I don't really care about, but he barely ever talks to me. He got a new phone, so I can't text him anymore. He's the type of guy who's always surrounded by his friends, laughing about dumb stuff. I think he's cute and funny. The girls I think he likes are the ones who talk to him and joke around. I want to do that, but i don't know what to talk about. Can someone please help me? | Crushes |