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This girl from art school about 6 or 7 years ago messaged me out of the blue. It's trippy. Only in hind sight I realize she was as close to freaking perfect as I've met. I'm almost 30. This isn't a stupid teenage idea of perfect. I think I accidentally went on a date with her back when and didn't realize it. I was an idiot in college. The message was the usual "hey hows it going" and asks if I'm taking any drawing classes workshops she do too. Checking her Instagram shows that she lives 10 minuets from me. She's been married for years but I have no clue how that's going. The dude looks like a model and I kinda don't. I actually cut social media ties with her since it was hard to watch. Lurked occasionally. I never thought I'd really talk to her again until tonight. I was happy letting her be one of those girls that pass by in life and you always keep in the back of your mind. The old nervous feels are bubbling up again. I'm trying to stay chill but you know about all the "what if"s that go flashing through someones head. We'll see how the conversation goes tomorrow. | Crushes |
So there is this girl, this amazing, perfect girl. Everything I look for. She has red hair, blue eyes, and an amazing smile and laugh. Better than that, we share common interests. We both play the same instrument. We both love to laugh and hang out with friends, and she is very funny, smart, and all around perfect in my eyes. Thing is, I think even though she is just a crush, I have taken it way too fast, or at least I think I have. I asked her to dance with me when no one else did, and she appreciated that alot. Then, I gave her chocolates on Valentines day. The last major thing I did was get her a birthday present, and that was the last day of school. We are back in school now, and I have no clue what my next step is. Please help, if you would! Ty!
Tl;Dr: Perfect girl, took it kinda fast and now I don't know my next step, as I'm kinda walking on eggshells at this point. | Crushes |
So, Im 18, got my first job at Target. Iv been working there for about a month and I have developed a crush while I was there. I thought he was 25, he looks it. turns out he's 42. We're in contact with each other and he has no idea. lets keep it that way. | Crushes |
**This is a LOOOOOOOOOONG post. I need some help on the situation. We are both 15.**
All names will be fake for privacy reasons.
I had known this girl (let us call her Jennifer) for a couple of years but never found any interests in talking to her. After slowly easing into conversation I realized that I really liked her and wanted to get to know her better. The day we really started to be comfortable around her was the same day I was flying away on a family vacation.
Throughout the whole trip, I was attempting to talk to her and really figure out her personality. At this time she had a boyfriend for (about) a month and a half, but more on that later. I realized that even though I really enjoyed talking to her, it was hard to know if she was actually interested.
Because of the fact that I was 5 hours ahead of her, I would have to stay up relatively late (12am-3am) just to even talk to her. When her boyfriend (he shall be referenced as Mark) would be shitty to her, I would be there to help her out. When she would have an issue, I could tell her how to handle a situation.
On my return back home, we started to talk a lot more at school, and even more afterwards. I would come home, plug my phone in, and then we would talk (whilst doing homework, studying, etc) until one of us would get sleepy and hang up the phone so we could go to bed.
This cycle basically repeated every day for a couple weeks, until we stopped hanging up the phone. It's something insignificant, but for some reason it really made me feel better. Instead, I set up a script so that the phone would automatically hang up before her "free calling" ended.
Anyway, one gigantic issue is that throughout 15 years of my life, I had never experienced anything as close to a "relationship" as this. I have never kissed anybody, had a relationship, or even liked anybody before. Where as on the other hand she HAS had plenty of relationships, kissed/made out with plenty guys, and has most definatley liked people before.
Another problem is the fact that I look as if I fell face first into the ugly tree, and she is really attractive. I am a decently overweight guy who is into staying home, video games, anime, and technology; and she is a beautiful girl who likes rowing, partying, and is 100000000000000x more experienced than me when it comes to social interaction and relationships.
At this point, I know that I must have a decently mediocre personality if she still continues to talk to me every night (even if she was still dating Mark). She is a very private person and has a very difficult time sharing any personal details about her past with me, which I totally understand but it makes it even more difficult to understand her as a person. It is also hard to get any legitimate grasp on her feelings towards anything (guys, relationships, other people).
Push came to shove, and she realized that she wasn't happy at all in her current relationship. Jen decided it was a great time to stop the relationship (this was about 4-5 days before their 2 month anniversary). In a short explanation: Mark would never make Jen happy, because he was an egotistical idiot who only ever did things to benefit himself.
So now Jennifer is single, but she always told me all of her relationships with guys has been really garbage. This puts pressure on me, because evidently I really like this girl, but I am unaware of what I should do because I haven't been in this situation before.
(We are nearing the end, I promise :D)
Now that she is single, obviously she can go and freely talk and flirt with other guys, which meant I really had to show her that I had feelings for her. We started hanging out more and more (because she had free time with Mark out of the picture) and I really feel as if this can lead somewhere.
Fast forward of the same "basic cycle" for about a week or two, and we come to about early-mid July. She had been talking to Mark's cousin in a very flirtatious manner, which of course has me worried because overall he is more attractive than me. While also talking to him, she talks to assorted guys from our area thanks to services such as Hot or Not, Kik, Snapchat, etc.
Because I basically talk to her at all possible times because I am really interested in what she has to say, and I know exactly what goes on in these conversations. Whenever she uses Hot or Not/Kik/Snapchat, I just hear her go: "hoooooooooooooooooooooooly shit, he is hot as hell" or "omfg he is so god damn sexy". Of course, because I know that she most definatley doesn't find me physically attractive at all, this makes me feel like absolute crap. She always talks about how great looking these guys are.
I was talking to one of her friends about it (we can call her Mary), and she told me that: "being good looking is definitely what catches a girls attention, but an enjoyable conversation, and a great personality is what makes her stick around. If you haven't realized, you are definitely that for her." This definatly filled me with hope, but it didn't help that other "attractive" people were also constantly texting her, and making her happy.
So she likes hot guys, who are experienced, and that like to be social. I am the exact opposite of this, which kills me emotionally, and has brought me to shitty places mentally.
We recently found out that she got mono (probably from Mark, because she hasn't kissed anybody since then) so she hasn't been able to talk very often. One of these days I was a bit busy, and I wasn't able to put as much detail in my texts.
She tells me: "I have really grown to hate talking to you, ngl (not gunna lie)."
Me: "Why? I am so sorry, Jennifer."
Jennifer: "You always say you're so interested in our conversations, but you never actually are. Don't be sorry, I don't really care."
Me: "I do care though, Jennifer. I am interested in what you have to say, I've just been a bit busy these past couple days."
Jennifer: "I don't want to deal with you if you're going to be over dramatic, not tonight."
Me: "I won't be, I was saying I feel like shit because you said you've grown to hate talking to me."
Jennifer: "No it's fine, we are all gooooooooooood."
Me: "Alright. That scared me."
Jennifer: "Why?"
Me: "I don't know, I guess I've grown too dependent on our conversations and I wouldn't want to lose that."
Jennifer: "Calm down, it's okay."
Me: "Sorry, it's just that my heart sank."
And then things were a bit awkward for a day, but I called her again tonight, and everything was fine. She told me she can sleep better if we hang up the phone, rather than just leaving it on, so I told her that "after I'm done typing something" I would hang up the phone so she can sleep... BEEP BEEP I hear someone calling her phone... BEEP BEEP... She wakes up: "Alright, I'm going to answer this but I might fall asleep before I can hang up on him" (this was a guy shes known for a decently long time, who she finds very funny, attractive, and she texts all the time).
Now I am sitting here, typing this up, and I want to know how I can try and figure out what I have to do. I need some guidance, or someone to tell me what I am doing wrong.
*tl;dr(: Been talking to a girl for a decent amount of time, I think I have been getting jealous for a while but I don't know. I really like her but lack the experience to try and further advance this situation.
***Update:*** She is going to a party with her friends this Saturday, and now I'm really feeling bad because she said if anybody tries anything on her shes up for letting it happen. | Crushes |
Currently 14, she's 14, I'm older.
Met in middle school, 6th grade, same class until 7th. We rode the same bus all 3 years until high school (now).
Talked everyday basically, but she was annoying and I had no interest in her for the first 2 years. 8th grade triggered me to like her so idk.
Thought I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me I'm curious tho.
We both make each other laugh all the time, were not good friends though. Everytime we see each other we would smile or laugh, etc.
She literally laughs or smiles when I look at her for some reason, am I that ugly what.
Though she has interest in other guys as I heard of her crushes. I cry now and then, just kidding I don't but I get sad and lose confidence.
I help her all the time with any problem she has, thanks now and then. We have two classes in 9th grade, talk now and then and make each other laugh. Pretty sure her crush is in the same class, not confirmed.
My trigger was when we both finish-- I mean I finished the work we were struggling with in first place. Nothing. Her crush's group finishes the work, he says done, she high fives him.
What the fuck Lily, where the fuck is my high five. Fuck you.
Yeah anymore questions I need to answer to find out if she likes me or what?
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I would do literally anything for this girl. She is the perfect package. I don't know if she has any feelings towards me. I have never had a girlfriend before at age 23, she has had at least two boyfriends (she's also 23), the first one she was in love with years ago but the second one broke her heart so to speak. She seems to somewhat enjoy my company and we have laughed a little together. We have SO much in common. But I feel this girl is way above my level. I have low self-esteem and I'm ashamed of my "skinnyfat" body. Looks like I finally have to start exercising and lifting. There are so damn many butterflies in my stomach. | Crushes |
There's this girl that i really really like she's in my head most of the time and sometimes i can't even study because i keep thinking about her, anyway my best friend said that he will try to help me but sadly i think she likes him, she sometimes flirt with him.I think she's outta my league she's really beautiful and cute while i'm not attractive, should i just give up? but how can i get her outta my head? | Crushes |
There's a girl in a few of my classes that I like. She has a friend who's not in any of my classes, yet somehow knows my name. After the third time they had said hi to me with seemingly no reason, I confronted her (and my crush, who was there at the time) about it. Twice they had failed to give me a straight answer. I've been trying to think of reasons for people to talk about me which would cause this chain of events, but I couldn't think of anything. I'm 99% sure my crush likes me, but I can't confront her for the life of me. It's been a few weeks since this happened. Should I wait for an opportunity, or just man up and talk to her? | Crushes |
my crush always pm me first on fb and always try to help me in exams and keep looking on me while smiling and once me and her were alone in the bio exam and she finished fist and asked me if i finished and told her no but ill finish in 20 mins or so she waited till i finish and told me if u want we can check our exams paper together to make sure we get high grades and i was like nty | Crushes |
I have a crush on a guy who's moving in half a year or less to go back to school, so I'm trying not to get too worked up over him. But just for fun, I'd like to get some advice :)
He's a little awkward but very friendly and talkative with most people. He coaches a class I go to and while he scans the room while talking/watching us, he stares extra long at me and looks my way very frequently, even from far away.
We've talked a few times and he's initiated conversations after I made the first attempt, but they're usually only a few minutes since he's working and has to go back. He has asked a few more personal questions and asked me about my schedule once. I’ve caught him staring at me as I was leaving in different scenarios, in ways that were very obvious he wasn’t just casually spacing out.
However, he recently joined instagram and followed me and started liking photos as I added them. I have a project that I post almost once a day for. I had a tiny feeling that he may have joined to see my photos since I sometimes posted them to facebook, but that could just be my ego ;) He's not really a social media/creative kind of guy so I'm not sure why he's on there... But randomly a week ago he has stopped liking anything I post, but I can see he likes other people's stuff still.
He also complimented me on some clothing that same time. I told him I got it online and he asked to let me know where. The next day I messaged him on facebook with a link and some text, hoping he would respond so I could initiate a conversation. He opened it, but didn't respond or even say thank you. When I saw him again a few days later he happened to come over to talk to a mutual friend and then brought up the link and started talking to me again until he had to go back to work.
Today he completely ignored me as he came in the building when I was sitting right in front of the door (but knew I was there.)
I have a feeling he likes me, though not sure why he isn't liking my stuff :p I don't know what to do other than to keep talking to him and hoping our mutual friend gets us to hang out together when he's not working. I don’t stare as I’m afraid of being obvious, so I’m not giving him a lot of signals other than trying to talk to him/showing up where he is all the time. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who was not shy, which was much easier for me…
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So, I have this crush on a girl. We used to go to school together, graduated last year. She knew I crushed on her. We stayed in contact for a while, but apparently I changed too much because I'm crushing on her. Got nosy, annoying, protective etc. and about 2 months ago, we decided that it was best if we kept distance for a while. So I figured, I'd wait about 5-6 months before texting her again. First question would be if that is long enough, too long, not long enough or whatever. I already know how to text her. I'll text her, if she doesn't respond, wait a couple hours and text again, if she doesn't respond again, just leave it, accept it and try to move on. But I don't know *what* to text. Should I just say Hey and ask her how she's been doing? I'm not looking to get into a relationship or anything with her, I just want to be friends with her again. | Crushes |
Okay, so there's this boy. Let's call him Bob for simplicities sake. I am a high school sophomore and he is a junior. We are both young for our grade level. I've never been involved in a relationship of any type and never really invest time into thinking about attractions
I met Bob 2 years ago. We're both in debate and science bowl. I just recently switched over from Lincoln-Douglas to policy debate. He's always so helpful, even though I'm not a very good debater right now.
But what really stands out about him is that he's a genius. Literally, he takes maybe 3 courses at actual high school and he's at college for basically the entire day. He's also got guaranteed scholarships at Caltech.
At first I was jealous, that's kind of how it starts out, and I wanted to be able to do what he could do. I mean, he tested out of all of his high school math classes in the 7th grade and I'm just a sophomore in precalc!
I'm really awkward and so is he. I can usually read a lot about people but I can't read him. I want to go to prom with him but I don't think he'd ever ask. I have no idea how he sees me, friend or what. Just, this is all so new to me and I have no idea what to do. | Crushes |
This guy sits next to me in class.
Everyone normally asks about assignment in group chat.
Out of the blue, he asked me about it through private chat, not just once.
He teased me a lot, randomly asked me irrelevant questions.
I recently wore make up more than I usually do and walked into the room while he was talking with someone else. He turned his head and stared at me so long that I thought he would break his neck.
He didn't compliment, but asked if I was going to a club or something. Also, his eyes are so intense.
I'm not so sure. I don't know if it's just my imagination. | Crushes |
Only to tell me she started selling drugs. It sucks. | Crushes |
Okay, so I have a question.
My best friend is a boy. And everyone thinks we are dating.
Correct that. Two of my best friends are boys. After class, they both approach me. They sit next to me and all, and we talk.
Recently (My swim teacher crush mishap thing is somewhere) my crush was confronted about liking me blah blah I'm dating someone blah we think he likes me blah blah.
Is he using my friendship to date me? Does he really what to be friends? or does he want to date me? he shows off. He greets me with "(Insert my name) From swim!!1' All the time. Then someone yelled I liked him blah blah I denied it. Blah, I was told I was blushing blah.
What do you think? | Crushes |
i have this crush....i saw her at the library a semester ago and i hope she saw me too
she was talking about jimmy from degrassi, whom i am a fan of, but if she were mine i wouldn't be like lou
except ill be the (6)man for her. when i saw her my heart stopped, i remember i forced myself to say something, but it only made my functions stop like a machine oiled with glue
i've been working on my shyness, hope its enough for her highness , wait 'till you see her, oh what an enchantress
one semester later i found her (now). that feeling that you get when you find something real special you lost and once fret. or that feeling Rose felt when she lost that gem but this magnificent stone i will treasure, i can reassure you
i've been meaning for a meet-up. oh my that would be breath taking, similar to hiking a mountain with a view, but seeing her eye to eye would be more extraneous, but my that would be a dream come true
i want to come to her, thats my plan
but the problem is, i saw her, alas, she had a man.
as much as I'm enthralled by her, I respect
whatever she currently has and her plans
steal her heart i wont do, whatever happens the sky will always be blue, but a color i never wanna leave without seeing, is her hue.
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My crush.
I'll call her L. The stars sing her praises and the wind through the trees whisper her name. Her smile and look makes me weak in the knees. I can feel her presence by what can only be described as a fire in my head. Even when she makes me crazy I can't help but adore her.
I met her in November at a monthly event we both attend. I noticed her because whenever I would look the vast majority of the time, she would be within arm's reach. I was at first worried, as I try to keep people at arm's length(because I form crushes very, very easily), but by the end of the event I was starting to grow fond of her. I talked with one of my friends who also go to the event and she told me she was gay.
Now, at the time, I thought this would be the end of any crush. Her closeness was obviously a coincidence, nothing more than me misinterpreting the actions of a very, very pretty girl. Next time I saw her she would act like every other lesbian I have ever met(kind, gracious, and appropriately distant), I would chastise myself for my foolishness, and we would be friends.
This is when the charm offensive began that made Normandy look like a casual jaunt to the shore for a sweater and a shellfish tower. She told me she liked me, that I was silly and fun. More often than not she would be around. In January I was talking to her while lying down and reached out my hand for hers, which she took. Not a week ago when I was talking to her she looked at me with a look that I've only seen in people that I end up dating, that sappy look that usually comes with an intense oxytocin high.
Now, I'm not saying I have super amazing gaydar for lesbians, but I've known a lot of lesbians and I've never, ever seen a lesbian act like this.
We now talk outside of the monthly event that we see each other at, after I told her that I like her too and look forward to getting to know her better(she responded after less than a minute). My plan is that after a month or two I'll sit her down and we'll have a mature conversation about all of this. The only reason I don't do it now is because I want to demonstrate through my actions that if I misunderstood and she likes me as a friend then I'm ok with that* and value our friendship immensely.
The odd thing is that, even though she is gorgeous, about 80% or so of what I want to do with her is intimate but not necessarily sexual. Holding her hands, curling up in a warm bed and telling each other secrets, holding her tight and feeling her energy.
The other 20% is very, intensely, savagely sexual. Less "love making" and more "rutting".
*Yes, I'll need a week or two to grumble, listen to some Robert Johnson, and re-align myself but I'm more than willing to bite that bullet. | Crushes |
--Hi, last year was my high school graduation so since I don't have friends that are boys, with the help of a friend, I found that a guy that I had met on a christmas party 2 years ago that she's known that coincidentally is from the same primary and secondary school as me but a year older(he even on one time said that he did know who I was when we were on school even though I didn't), and likes similar things that I like so I asked him.
--I asked him by Facebook and after he said yes, we ended up having a meme conversation where he would send one then me until much later where the two got busy with other stuff. Then we stopped talking until the day approached.
--When the graduation party happened (we both were nervous) I had a great time with him, we talked, danced with my friends and their partners until it was over.
--Fast forward to some months ago I sent him a message and then the conversation ended up being of days until it ended. Since then I haven't talked to him or seen him. So with this I don't know if he has had a feeling for me since he hasn't tried talking to me or anything but I have had feeling for him, so I decided to write in here to hear your opinions whether I should try to talk to him again or just forget him and wait till I meet someone. Also i forgot to add I'm currently in college and we are not in the same one but his college is in the same city as mine. | Crushes |
I know this girl, she is my best friend and also my crush. She knows I like her and stuff and I know she likes me. The thing is, is that she sees relationships being broken and all about sex. She knows I'm not that kind of guy but her brothers have been through some bad relationships. I don't know if I should wait until she is ready or move on. I really like her but I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
OK so I have a crush on this girl from my school and I've had a crush on her since 6 grade(currently in 8 grade).I have only talked to this person two times during this school year.The first time, I was coming back from lunch and I saw her next to my locker.She was talking to a friend of hers.I tell her excuse me an she instantly starts a conversation with me.We talk back and forth (I was blushing so hard I was a tomato for 1 minute)about her life.After a while I kneel down to get my binder for class when out of knowere she starts rubing my head like a dog.I was so red I instantly got my binder and left.The second time we talked was outside of school.I was walking home when I saw her and her friend.Her friend likes to call me locker buddy since our lockers at school are together.She tells me "hi locker buddy"and I respond by saying "hi locker buddy".Not long after my crush says "can I be your locker buddy to"and starts laughing. I litteraly froze and thought at what to say.At the end I said ok and she started laughing. So if anybody has some advice ,it would be gratefully appreciated. Thank you.
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Why does my crush every time I am by him stops talking and tries to get his friends attention when I pass? Also what does it mean if they keep turning around to look at you in the hallways? | Crushes |
I have liked this girl for awhile now (about 4 years),
I never got around to telling her. The first time around she was with someone and now she's with this guy who's moreover a jerk to her and also her rebound from the first relationship she had. I've been told that she liked me the first time around (four years ago), but never made a move. Now these feelings are coming back up, and I don't know whether to tell her or wait for her or don't do anything at all. I think she likes me too, due to different conversations we've had over the past couple of months (catching up with her again). Example: saying sweet things to eachother, being ourselves around eachother ( which she did say she couldn't be herself around her new bf), saying certain things like songs remind us of one another and other things.
I don't want to ruin anything anything, but I don't know what to do.
Also sorry in advance this is just skimming the top of the situation | Crushes |
It's this time again..
Short sum up of the story: I said 18 Month ago that I wanted to break the relationship between us, because I confessed her and she said she wasn't ready. And I keep thinking about her, almost everyday since now, now I'm crying because I miss her.. I don't want to know other girls.. I tried to do it with two other girls but non of that were real. I'm sad.. | Crushes |
So my crush's best friend just asked me to hang out this weekend. I don't want to say yes, in case he gets the wrong impression and tells my crush that we hung out (because then I would probably get friend zoned). I also don't know want to be mean and say no. Any advice on what to do this situation? | Crushes |
i went to middle school with a girl that i had a huge crush on or about 3 years. we ended up at the same high school and i tried to forget her but she's been giving signs recently that she's into me too. assuming that im right and not just denko story part 2, what are some subtle/anonomous ways of making sure? i'd prefer not to just 'man up' because we have a few mutual friends and dating, while not frowned upon, is prettg rare at our school- don't want any fallout.
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(I've already posted about this, read the first post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/3wotop/does_he_like_me_or_nah/?ref=share&ref_source=link)
So I can't stop thinking about this guy who I don't even see around anymore! I literally spend every night thinking about him. And it's not all does-he-like-me-does-he-not-like-me, either. I'm going to be honest and say I'm pretty sure he liked me. But it feels like the worst thing in the world knowing the guy you like probably liked you back and you didn't have the guts to talk to him about it.
How do I get over him? Please help, seriously!! | Crushes |
So there's this guy and I don't talk to him much but I do here and there, I'm extremely shy and I've been single for my whole life (I'm 15 btw) but for the past year and a half I've been infatuated with him.
I really wanna talk to him and get closer to him,but I don't know how!!! I am so awkward!!! Help me | Crushes |
Lets say you have a crush on Girl1. Girl1 sends a wingman without you knowing, asking if you would give Girl1 your kik. for a true shy guy? would you have said yeah or no? | Crushes |
I have never been the type to talk about relationships because I used to find them useless. BUT now I thought I should keep my mind open to relationships.
Fast forward a few months, and now it took me 2 months to notice this girl in one of my classes. What really caught my eye is that she was smiling, she was always happy, her hair so beautiful because it complemented her bright brown eyes. And even better, she's smart.
Fast forward even more, I see her everyday because she is in the same classes as myself. Now for me, I am the shy type of person until you get to know me. I always think about her and now I always look at ways to improve myself because I feel like I'm not good enough.
There are some days where we meet eyes, but the shy me look away. But when we do meet eyes our faces are blank and we just stare. No smiling. But even so, I feel like I'm empty. Some days she sits with her guy friends, and I get jealous but she doesn't know that. It's not a jealousy that is from anger but because I am too shy.
Currently, I always think about her when I wake up, and right before I sleep.
I just need to get this off my chest. Thank you everyone for listening. | Crushes |
So I'm 14, not really experienced in relationships and all that, but I have this crush on a girl in my class and it's driving me...kinda crazy. It's been 1 year since I liked her.
Before that, I only had one crush and the difference between that crush and my current crush are that I'm happy if my current crush is happy. My past one...not so much.
Once dreamt about current crush :/ too. For the record, I expressed my feelings towards her already so the air is kind of cleared. Afterwards, we talked a lot online and we're friends, more or less.
So back to my main question: difference between crushes and love?
I mean, it could be that my ex-crush was when I was 10 so I didn't exactly get love and all that, but now what I'm thinking is: love is when you want the other person to be happy and you care for them, or is that just crushing?
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So as a new semester at my school, we had some schedule changes. It's quite possible my crush isn't in my school or just has completely different classes.
I'm honestly dying on the inside thinking about this because the chances of him liking me back were there.
I don't know what to do.. | Crushes |
This is a gay situation after all, so keep in mind those chances.
He seems to be shy around me
He stares at me
When he has the excuse, he'll be next to me
When I catch him staring at me, he automatically looks down and walks away
Got any ideas?
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Okay so there's this senior guy at my school (i'm a junior btw) and i've had a crush on him for 3-4 months now.
Since the beginning of this school year we've been making eye contact, i honestly have no idea how this all started out but everytime we're near each other or we pass each other in the hallways he will look at me and eventually we'll make a lot of eye contact (sometimes he will look away quickly, sometimes he will hold the eye contact., it's so awkward for me cause im kind of shy and i never know what to do)
Anyway, i've never really talked to him though my best friend keeps telling me that she thinks it's really obvious that he may have some kind of feelings for me and i'm also sure my crushes friends know i have a crush on him?
So, last week during winter break i decided to send him a message on fb saying hi.
I know you might think it's lame starting off on facebook but it was a big step for me.
So he responded but things didn't go as i hoped it to, he was like giving short answers not intending to keep a conversation going so i just decided to just let go of it.
Yesterday, i saw him back at school for the first time after our break and it was well kind of weird.
He still keeps looking at me and i just don't know what to do?
I really want to go up to him to talk to him but he's ALWAYS with his friends so that's kind of impossible for me and it's making me so upset i cannot stop thinking about him :/
Please help me? What do you think i should do?
Thanks | Crushes |
Background: My friend and I liked this guy and I decided to back down and let her ask him out.
So this guy and I are best friends now and my friend and him are dating. The thing is, I never really stopped liking him. My friend has been really uncommunicative over the past couple months with him and has been dragging him along which has bothered me so much. I honestly don't know how much longer I can stand not telling him that I like him. The thing is, it could destroy my relationship with him and my close friend. What should I do?? Also, apparently he liked me first before he liked my friend but assumed (understandably) that I didn't like them because I actually set them up. Please PLEASE help | Crushes |
Okay, this might seem like a first world problem, but yeah why do I fall in love so easily?? I can literally fall in love with someone by just looking into their eyes for like 3 or 4 seconds if they're really pretty that is. I once fell in love with someone whose last name I didn't even know. Once I fall in love with someone, I just won't be able to think about anything else, sort of, and I'll become obsessed with them. | Crushes |
I fell for him when I was 13 and he was 16. Now I am 16 and he is almost 19 and, most importantly, thousands of miles away from me, on a completely different continent.
He was here, in this weird capital city of an even weirder country, for a year. And then he left, and I still have no idea what kind of feelings he had for me.
There was something, you see. At least mere attraction if nothing else. We were pretty good friends, but my crush became more obvious with time. Then he kissed me, but he already had a girlfriend. He suggested I went to his house for some "coffee" and I refused. I was absolutely outraged, especially when he wanted me to become his "mistress". These propositions plagued my thoughts and nauseated me to no end, but I couldn't get over the crush. Apart from those shady ideas of his he was nice, friendly and outgoing, and I thought the two of us would be content staying friends... without benefits. A few months after our first kiss, with out group of friends nowhere in sight, we were all alone. And he apologized for his previous action and I am convinced that at least this part of his speech was honest, because between the kiss and this moment he had showed signs of regret. After the apology, though, he sensed that I was moved and vulnerable. His words were so sneaky... Combined with my best friend's ideas (she was certain that he was just as in love with me as I was with him), I was sure it was a matter of minutes before he said those three words I had been waiting for. It wasn't the case. We kissed yet again and when I held his hand he told me: "I don't want you to get any wrong ideas. I'm only interested in dating girls who are 18 years old or older." I couldn't say anything regarding that. I just changed the subject and wished that at least he was telling the truth, that at least the reason he wouldn't go out with me for real was my age and my unwillingness to have sex.
I tried to hold on to this belief (while sensing that it would be a lie) until he got into a relationship with another friend of mine, a classmate, may I add. I am slightly younger than most of my classmates, which means that at the time she was fourteen. Eighteen or older my foot. This also meant that I had to sever all ties with the friend in question, as she was very aware of my feelings and insisted that there was no way she could get together with him. I started seeing him less and less and I thought I was over it, but then he got another girlfriend, and that girl has the same name as I do, and when he was calling her to come kiss him I was extremely hurt. My interactions with him became more and more awkward to the point where I was glad that during his last months here we seldom met.
Then came his last day in our country. I went with some other friends to tell him our goodbyes and he greeted us all with a warm hug. It reminded me of the time when we were strictly friends, my feelings unbeknowst to him. Back then we would hug when we had to part ways. I also remembered the moment when I fell in love with him: I was trying to break up with my first boyfriend and I had no idea how to, unexperienced as I was. And he gave me advice and I could see his warm, smiling face through a curtain of tears. I fell for his kindness and friendliness, but as I dug deeper I found signs of jerkassery (there were some instances when he shouted at me or he was cold, along with the moments I described earlier), so why am I still in love with him? Why don't I know what was actually going on in his mind when he acted the way he did (I've got a vague idea, but I don't want to believe it, not yet)?
This summer he is coming back and staying here for a month. During his years outside the country we only talked twice, except for birthday wishes. I don't know whether I'd have it in me to ask him what the truth is, but I feel it's the only way I can get closure. I am so conflicted right now.
tl;dr: My crush wanted us to be friends with benefits, even though he always had official relationships. I think I know the truth, but I want your opinions before (probably) asking him. | Crushes |
Recently I ran into a young lady that I have been acquaintances with for years and we have some mutual friends. Her grandfather goes to church with me and has been going for about a year. She said hello to me at the grocery store. We had a brief conversation. She said she wants her little girls in Sunday school. I invited her to come to our church. The thing is her boyfriend is my old crush from high school and I was so shy back then, I barely spoke to him. They have been together for about six years. The weird thing is I started thinking about him about several weeks ago after years of not even thinking about him. I've just started thinking about how will I react and deal with it, if this happens. Just think about it her grandfather goes there. Also, his girlfriend went to church with me along time ago and she hasn't been for years. So there is a possibility that they might actually start going to my church. | Crushes |
Recently I ran into a young lady that I have been acquaintances with for years and we have some mutual friends. Her grandfather goes to church with me and has been going for about a year. She said hello to me at the grocery store. We had a brief conversation. She said she wants her little girls in Sunday school. I invited her to come to our church. The thing is her boyfriend is my old crush from high school and I was so shy back then, I barely spoke to him. They have been together for about six years. The weird thing is I started thinking about him about several weeks ago after years of not even thinking about him. I've just started thinking about how will I react and deal with it, if this happens. Just think about it her grandfather goes there. Also, his girlfriend went to church with me along time ago and she hasn't been for years. So there is a possibility that they might actually start going to my church. | Crushes |
Hello Reddit.
I'm new to this job( been there for 3 weeks now) and on the 2nd day there I met a guy. I just smiled at him, gave him eye contact and that's about it. He caught my attention immdiately. And i'm not the one to fall for what society sees as a "hot guy." anyways, About a week after, I was partnered with him to continue my trainning at my job and we were super busy that I barely had any chance to talk to him. I asked him if he liked his job here etc. But that's about it. Oh and I asked him if he liked the Lakers(basketball team)because he was wearing a cap to which he replied he did at one point in his life. I mentioned that i saw one of their games, to which he replied "cool." anyways, My manager has not scheduled him to work with me at all except for this upcoming week. And i'm dying to get to know him even more! this may sound creepy, go ahead and judge me, but i looked him up on the internet and he had a Match.com profile which displayed his interests. After reading his bio, I totally have a lot of things in common with him. I'd like to hang out or go on a hike, but would it be creepy to ask him to hang out? I've worked with him 4 times. and spoke very little. When I see him again it will be a 3 weeks since i had last seen him. So peoppe, help me out. please? am i being a creep? Another co-worker knows that he is single. He's 23(only 4 years older than I am) hahaha, thanks! | Crushes |
Today I got back from my childhood friend's baby's first bday(hope that sounds right). I've known her since she was in kindergarten and her sister since she was in 5th grade. I met their other sisters when I was about 17, I'm 34 now. Needless to say I've known the family for years. The sister I met in 5th grade I had a crush on back then, then in high school I feel in love with her. She didn't love me that way but I think she may have liked me. We were always hot and cold, but ever since I fell for someone else in 2010 I eased up, I just talk to her like a friend, not a guy trying to get at her. I still think she's beautiful, I still love her voice, I still get some what nervous when we talk(mostly because I can't believe we're talking like normal people), but I don't have those intense feelings anymore.
While I was there I spoke to her mom and step dad a lot, I spoke to the sisters husbands, I saw their kid, I felt like I was somehow apart of their family. I went through this rough patch of about 10 years with the sisters and now this, I loved it. The mom grabbed my hand and said to me "I know you'll be a good father one day, I can tell" she looks over at the girl I use to love, I didn't turn my head back, I didn't want to make it awkward, but I had this though "maybe one day". I'm over those feelings but I couldn't have predicted this day would come, maybe one day her and I "rekindle" (or whatever you want to call it) feelings. I felt natural being around those people. I love all of them in a different way, I knew since we were kids they'd be a special part of my life. Maybe I've reached it, maybe I haven't yet. Either way I still am smiling about today and grateful for what I have with them. | Crushes |
Its just an innocent crush, but there was this girl who I knew of in high school, she took drama with my older brother. I never talked to her because my brother kept his friends away from me and I respected his space. Anyways fast forward to 2 months ago, I see her on facebook and finally talk to her. Shes beautiful, shes into the same stuff I am, we even have the same speech impediment. She's married now, but shes so cool. I could kick myself for not talked to her in high school, she actually would have been perfect for me. I'm grateful for the friendship now, shes cool to talk to from time to time but damn I wish I had gotten to know her sooner, now its too late. | Crushes |
I'm having a crush on someone from work. I've gradually noticed that I appear to brag a lot when they're around (usually I don't ;-) ), and that I am always trying to get their attention...
I think it's mutual, too.
But I don't wanna do anything with this crush. I think it could only ruin things in our situation.
So I'm keeping it a secret. That way, nothing changes. And I can keep savoring this feeling.
But since I'm keeping it a secret, I sometimes think I will just burst keeping it all inside. Hence this confession here. I need to tell someone! So thank you for reading, now at least *you* know! | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a very popular American YouTube girl for a very long time now. She's literally the most beautiful and perfect girl I've ever seen in my life. However because she is quite famous, now with over 150,000 subs, and the fact that she lives in Los Angeles and I live in the United Kingdom, I don't stand a chance. Any help would be greatful, I can't stop thinking about her. | Crushes |
I am a slow guy when it comes to romance/relationships. I am attracted to a lot of girls but don't pursue unless I know shes the one. Well I had a co worker bring this girl in, I didn't think anything of her at first, cute...sure, very quiet, then we got to working together. I was training her for my position, the guy who brought her in was a mutual friend, he said he liked her forever and to build him up, originally I didn't care but ok sure. When I got to know her though and look in her eyes, I didn't bad mouth the guy, I just didn't talk about him. I had been through a move at the time and got a lien on my car to help my mom pay rent, I didn't care though, I couldn't stop thinking about her.
Seemed mutual, she saw a facebook post I did and text me if I was ok, I said it was long and it would be better if she called, within 5 seconds phone rings, we talk and I loved it. Three days after I met her she text me she wants to bring me lunch(on her day off) and talk about "us" turns out it was the schedule, I was nervous. Later that day she text me if I want to have dinner with her and our mutual friend at her part time job, originally I said no, but my family saw I was falling hard, they encouraged me to go. My friend was upset, but I didn't care, I was happy to be there. I ate all kinds of weird food for her, afterwards her and I were outside and I remember the look we gave eachother, the smile on her face, I would have done it all over again. I was in love with her.
A couple other things was I wasn't afraid or panicked like I did with most girls and the thought of a long term relationship(I don't sleep around mind you). I was ok with her, I was ready. Come to find out we went to the same elementary school, same jr high and high school, now I'm training her to be in my position, I felt like we were always meant to meet and we finally did. Funny part too, we were both scorpios and our parents were both scorpios, to me just all this stuff made sense. Like all the pain and heart break lead to this girl, it was worth it.
Fast forward a couple weeks, I have a nightmare I lose her, I stay up at night, couldn't sleep, I call in sick and wake up at 11am. Well shes not use to that, she text me several times asking if I was mad at her. I usually respond right away, we would text or call before bed and when we woke up. I tell her I had a bad dream and I couldn't sleep. She said she knew, she saw my facebook page was late, she said she hated when I couldn't sleep. She grills me over my dream, I tell her its her I lose. I start crying. She said "I kind of thought it was me, but I cant, I'm with someone, but I wont leave you, leave your life. Not to take no for an answer but she said "I cant" not "I don't feel the same way"
We actually went hiking and to dinner later in the week. I knew I was full blown in love, I felt something from her but I couldn't tell if it was love or me being biased. She asked me on our dinner "date" how many kids I wanted, I told her 2, she said she only wanted 1. My guy friends said that was serious for her to ask on the first date and that most guys would run. I was ready. Meanwhile our mutual friend gave me an ultimatum, its either her or him, he called "dibs" on her and wanted me to step aside. I said no. I lost our mutual guy friends who was convinced I was cock blocking, but she was with another guy, not me or my friend.
A lot of people got involved and we lost contact, drifted, just like my dream showed me. I wrote her years later and came clean about a lot of the things behind the scenes and I finally told her I loved her. She read it, didn't respond, then 5 days later deleted it. I haven't spoken to her in 4 years now. I miss her. I've been attracted to other girls but I don't know what she had that I fell for. I wondered if it was as hard for her as it was for me to not talk. This was all in the span of 3 months btw. I just wanted to write and get this story off my chest. Thanks for reading. | Crushes |
It all started two years ago. It was Halloween, and I was in 7th grade. I was just an annoying little seventh grader then. It was the 3rd period, and I was in my all time favorite class, Science. It was in that classroom, I had some of the happiest moments of my life. There was a girl I saw in that class, that I thought nothing of, just a random girl. She was wearing an ornate dress, with black and red stripes and a plethora of makeup that made her face look black. It was a really good costume. I did not know that she was that random girl in science class. The Halloween dance started, and sometime during it, she said, "hi friend!" I do not know why, but I said, "you are not my friend!" She walked away. It was not until a year later I got over the guilt that had befallen me.
I never thought about her or what I did until the January following that Halloween. It was the first day back from Christmas break when I noticed she was absent. I knew my job that week was to write down all the stuff we did in that class, so the person can easily catch up. I did it, without even the teacher telling me to. It was then when I really started thinking about her, and who she was. She was there the next day, and I kept thinking about her, what I did and started to feel bad.
Her beauty had then started to grow on me. It was a weak afterward, we were doing a test on computers. I looked up from my computer to look at her, and she caught me! I looked away in haste. It was then, I had a crush on her. It was a normal crush, the ones I had for the 8 years before. There was no contact between us, other than a few looks here and there. Until one day.
It was a Tuesday. I started talking in a group she was in on a "fun day". It was her two friends, and the girl that sat next to her. Stupidly, I had spiked up my hair that day, thinking it was cool, (it wasn't). I had Altoids in my pocket that day, as to keep my breath fresh for her. I gave my friend an Altoid. She then called me from across the room, "come here I need your help for something" I walked over, nervously, a thousand thoughts in my head about why she would need my help. She asked me for a mint. I was perplexed, as this was the first time she ever even acknowledged me. I gave her the mint, excited. I then talked to her while she was with her friends, telling jokes, and she laughed. I was stunned.
At this point, my family had already known of my crush on her. I raced home in excitement and told my family all about it. The following week, my sister begged me to ask her out. There was a play at the high school, she implored me to ask her to go with me. I was far too nervous to even talk to her, much less be with her alone, anywhere. I did not ask her out that week. I blamed it on the fact that there was a quiz in science class, and that is why I did not ask her out. The real reason I did not was because I was shy.
At this point, I was changing how I acted. I was no longer an annoying 7th grader, but a nice one. I wanted to change myself for her, I felt like I had to prove myself to her for what I did on Halloween. The next "fun day" was a couple of weeks afterward. I had my Altoids ready, for the odd chance she would ask, as any contact with her was considered progress in my mind. She then acquired a ball. She asked the person next to her if she wanted to play, she said no, as she was engrossed in a book. She then asked me. We then played catch. Just to be able to look in her eyes without her noticing and me having to look away was so mind boggling. I looked in her eyes, and she looked in mine. She had green eyes. I raced home, once again, and told my family of the events that unfolded.
At that point, she was the only thing I ever thought about. I thought about her wherever I went, no matter what I was doing, or who was around me. Every other train of thought led back to her. I would look at random things and find some way to relate them back to her. Everything about her attracted me to her. The way she walked, the way she talked, her hair, the way she acted, her voice, everything. I could pick her out in a crowd of people out of the corner of my eye, by just looking at the back of her head.
I then thought of excuses to be around her. I once had to go to the comic book store to get the new issue of the walking dead, and I decided to walk with her and her friends, as their house was on the way. I then started to walk with them every day, for no reason. I did not realize it then, but I was a major nuisance to all of them except her. Her friends were too nice to point it out to me though. At this point, I finally acquired friends. In the thirteen years before this point, I had not had one real friend. I thought these were my friends. They were people I thought were my friends, who were too nice to tell me otherwise. I made a plethora of jokes, some bad, some good.
I continued flirting with her, she continued flirting with me. It was then the end of the year at that point. It was the day of the jump-rope-athon. I saw here there, in the blaring sun, jumping, talking, and having fun. I wished I could be there to talk to her. All of her friends, including her, sat down. One of her friends picked up a piece of a broken jump rope and it looked like a straw that cocaine users use to snort cocaine. I commented on it, and she made a joke and told me to say "my name is [my name] I am addicted to cocaine." It was funny. I then saw my friend, and there was an ongoing inside joke between me and him that he loved me. I then showed him my muscles. I used a trick to make them look bigger. She then went on to saying they were so big. When we went outside after we were dismissed, she asked me to show her my muscles, and I obliged. She commented again I how big they are. As we were walking, she was talking about high school.
After, she asked me what high school I was going to, I said I was going to go to a different high school than the town default. She said, "aaaawww shiiiitt!" This was the first, and last time I ever heard her say a bad word. I never did apply to that high school. I did not know it then, but that school was for people who are REALLY smart.I then continued my walk with her and her friends, as I did, rather annoyingly, every day.
The flirting continued as the teacher vs student soccer game happened. I played the game, it was fun. What mattered was the walk back to the school afterwards. I spotted her out of the corner of my eye, and motioned my way towards her. We then started conversing. She sang some sort of weird song, with the same words every line about what we were talking about. I said nothing of it, as to maintain the upmost of respect for her. Her friend then said, if I were [my name] I would kill [her name]. I chuckled, and stated I would never hurt her. I was then walking in front of her, trying so hard to slow down to try to be with her. Then, something wonderful happened. She was talking to her friend about Italian words. They kept conversing, and then she said, "how do you say he's handsome?" Her friend gasped, "you like him?!" They kept conversing for a short time, as not to reveal such a delicate secret.
It was the second to last day of school when the next major thing happened. Her friend was organizing a pool party. I thought I would be invited. I wasn't. This was the first time any inkling of thought was given to the fact that her friends, did, in fact, not like me at all. The next day, the last day of school, there was another pool party, except organized by another one of her friends. I, again, was not invited. I was walking with this person, and I asked him if I could come to this party. I continued to guilt him into saying yes. He allowed my prescience there, reluctantly. So I got the chance to meet his parents. It was not evident then, but his parents, as well as most everyone else there, except my crush, thought I was rather annoying. I then continued socializing.
I am just glad that at the time of the party, I had my glasses off. Had I had my glasses on, I may have looked upon my crush's body, as she was wearing a two-piece bikini.
It was halfway through when everyone jumped in the hot tub. It was a little while through it when I and she were next to each other, our skin making contact, rubbing against each other. Her friend commented on it. Her father than showed up, far after we were out of the hot tub. I saw her talking to him. Two minutes later, I approached all of the adults. She said, "Show my father your muscles!" I obliged with a smile. He commented on them, saying they were big. A woman said, "You better not use them on [her son's name]" I said they were only for show, and everyone erupted in laughter. Her father said I was a good kid, half joking. I knew then, that her father knew I liked her, and she liked me, and that he would approve of a relationship. He then paid me more compliments. When the sun had set, she was in the hot tub. I was reluctant to go in, as I had to leave soon. Her two friends begged I ask her out. I responded with questions like, "where would I take her" and "What do I say." I then continued to say that if I was hanging out with them, and her, than I have the whole summer to ask her out. They looked down in disappointment Little did I know, they were extremely annoyed by me. That concludes my 7th grade experience
It took me a couple of weeks to learn of my friend's dislike for me. I would message him on snapchat asking if he would want to hang out. No response. I messaged my other friend, he came up with another excuse. I tried and tried, to no avail. Then, it hit me. They were not my friends. They were people I followed home. I invited myself over to his house. He did not invite me. I learned that the only person who was not annoyed by me was my crush. I then felt sad, but not nearly as sad as I was before 7th grade, being bullied as much as I was. I then thought that they thought I was annoying because I was full of myself, constantly claiming I was a chick magnet, when in reality, maybe two girls liked me. When I saw him in the 8th grade orientation, I tried to tell him I was full of myself, again, to no avail.
It was the first day of school. I walked with my former friends as I did in 7th grade, talked, etc. I did a many number of annoying things on that walk home I regret, except one thing. She had to walk to her friend’s house to pick up her young sister. They then started walking home. They were far ahead of me when I started running. I ran, and ran, until I found her walking home. I did not know it then, but it was rather weird for me to do that. I ran to her, and I was introduced to her sister. They looked exactly the same. We then talked about the new teachers, how our math teacher seemed really funny. I then bolted home.
It was the second week of school the next time I talked to her. The realization that her friends disliked me made me shy, which started a long cycle of being shy, as when I am shy, I feel like I cannot talk to her, and the more I do not talk to her, the more weird it seems to talk to her again, so an infinite amount of shyness was bestowed upon me for a long time. The next time we talked, it was when we were partnered together for a project. I made up a southern accent, a Dr. Phil, Bill Clinton esque accent. She erupted in laughter.
A few days later, I saw my friends walking home. To my surprise, they were walking without my crush. I decided to walk with them specifically to annoy them. If there is one thing I am good at, it is being annoying. I did this because since I started liking her, I told them about it, I also made them promise not to tell her, and they told her. I could tell she knew because of them. I found that rather rude. So I walked with them, except this time, they were rather vocal about how annoying I was. The topic of my crush came up in conversation. He asked if I still liked her. I said yes. I also said, "You probably told her right?" He threw me a look. I gave him a smug smile, as if to tell him I am not some dumbass that you can go back on your promises with. Our social connections were cut down to the occasional " 'sup" in the hallway.
For the next couple of months after that, I felt the distance grow between me and her. I also saw her get a lot skinnier. As my sister was diagnosed with anorexic not too long before that, a miasma of guilt had been bestowed upon me. Nothing too big happened until February, right before Valentine’s Day. I had had a friend that I was growing closer and closer to over time. I thought it was time to be more open about the whole “crush” topic. So I told him, and made him promise he would never tell anybody. He told 4 people in the next 5 minutes after I told him. The next day, the whole school knew. The following two days were brutal. I had constant suicidal thoughts, and dreamt of killing everybody who knew.
I visualized in my head me getting a piece of string and strangling my old friend in his sleep, by the light of streetlights out of his bedside window. I visualized this over and over again, for a very long time. I dreamt of ways to kill myself. By ways of drinking bleach, swallowing a bunch of pills. Or maybe even threaten a popular airline over Twitter to have a SWAT team come over my house. I visualized me reaching into my waistband or running away, to be shot. I visualized people in my school being beaten to death. I visualized me getting a random knife, coming to the school, walk up calmly to these people and stick the knife through their eye, and pulling it out. I dreamt of nailing their hands to a wall and making their genitalia a mutilated mess with an assortment of weapons and tools. It was a truly dark chapter in my life, one I never want to revisit. At this point, people were making fun of me and her. I did not care about my feelings not nearly as much as I did hers. I felt as though it was my fault, and hoped that people would just forget it. My feverish mind thought of new ways to kill these people every day. They called me [her name] boy. They said they did it because she was ugly. They lacked the collective brain power to know of selective beauty, how one person may find someone beautiful, and the other person may find that same person god – awful ugly. Many people have the biggest celebrity crush on Kim Kardashian. Frankly, I think she is ugly. Do I make fun of them? No.
The real reason why they did that is because they wanted power. Power is like money, once you get some, you want some more. They peel back my life like layers of an onion, until they find something I do not want them making fun of, and they make fun of me for it. They say it over, and over, and over, and over, and over again, until they feel bored with it. This made me even shyer than I already was. I basically never talked to her unless she talked to me first at that point.
It was not until the second to last day of school I talked to her again. It was at the formal dance. I remember this well because it happened just three days ago. I was nervously fiddling with glow sticks when I saw her walk through the door. She was beautiful. She had her hair up in the fanciest way you can think of, with braids collected at the top of her head with two strands of curly hair coming down both sides of her face. The hair looked silky to the touch. Had I wished I could run my hand through it. I had promised myself at that point I would ask for her number. I went through the whole dance avoiding her, as I was far too shy. It was a great time, besides the fact I did not get her number. When I got home, I erupted in tears over my desk. I posted to /r/MMFB the situation. It was really uplifting.
The next day, people were signing yearbooks, and their white shirts. It was that day I signed her yearbook. I wrote, “I had a great year with you.” Is that good?
Later that day, she was on her phone. I thought, I could ask for her number now! I reassured myself a better time would present itself after school. It didn’t. After school, she was with her friends, so I couldn’t talk to her, or at least that is what I thought. She than started walking down the street. I panicked. I racked my mind for what to do. I thought I could talk to my friends in front of her, turn around, and ask her. By the time I was done talking to my friends, she was half way across the street, on her way home. A thousand thoughts filled my mind. I felt my ears heat up, I knew they were red. I turned around, paused for a moment, and realized I could not do it anymore. My mind filled with anger, sadness, and anxiety. I bolted home, but this time with not good news, but with the worst news possible. I ran home, out of breath, thinking I would never see her again, thinking of all I ever did with her, how much I wanted to be with her. Tears flooded my eyes, but I could not let them escape, as not to embarrass myself in front of everybody. I opened the door, out of breath. My sister and mom’s boyfriend were there, they both said something. I didn’t even hear them, I just ran to my room. I instantly locked the door. I collapsed on the ground, crying. I sat in a pool of sweat and tears. I was enraged at myself. My sister knocked on my door, and said something. I just said I was in my room and ignored her. I laid there, in dismay, for half an hour, crying. I finally got up. I said nothing to my sister or anybody else after that. The next day, today, I wrote this. What should I do? The only thing I have to work with is her Instagram. Please help!
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I've had a crush on this girl since January, and we've become a lot closer over that time span. My friends were convinced that she liked me, and so I finally told her. She said that she really liked me, but as a friend. It's been a few weeks now, but I still haven't gotten over her. | Crushes |
I'm a slow moving guy when it comes to the ladies, but this one time I actually think had I had more time with her I would have been head over heels for this girl. I use to work at EB Games, I was in the back doing inventory and I come out to my co worker talking to this beautiful girl. I said "did she come in with her boyfriend, brother or dad?" He said "no one, go on you big chicken, talk to her!" At first I was too scared to talk to a girl that beautiful, but somehow I made my way over to her, we were watching a game called Metroid Prime. I don't remember who started the conversation but before I knew it we were talking about games. She had been a gamer since she was little.
We walked around the store, she asked me what games I was into and said I had just played Beach spikers, she playfully hit me in the stomach and said "you're only saying that because there's girls in it!" It's weird because I felt like I knew her my whole life. This other guy tried to chime in, she said "excuse me but what were YOU saying" and she's looking at me. I was shocked she wanted my attention, felt like the most important guy in the room. She was getting ready to leave but asked when I was working next, I told her and she left, I went out to say how I felt when my new boss(who was hiding in the store, never met the guy) got into a fight with my co worker who was sitting on the counter(his last day), I had to break it up so I didn't get a chance to talk to her.
A week or so later I get a call,about the Metroid game again, I knew it was her, I said "I was the guy who talked to you!" Things seemed ok, she said she'd come down and have lunch with me. She didn't show but she called and said she didn't want me to wait up, she wanted me to eat. She was very considerate. I came clean and said she was cool and I'd like to get to know her, she laughed, thought I was 18 but I was 22, when she found that out she seemed better with my age. I asked for her name, didn't get the last name, didn't give her mine, didn't ask for a number, I made so many mistakes but I never just come clean like that. I'm shy. I never saw her again but I sometimes tell the story, maybe one day someone will go "that was you, my friend tells the same one" . She was seemingly perfect, only got to talk to her for 45 min but it was great.
I've found love again over the years but there was something special about this girl. | Crushes |
Hey
Im crushing really hard on a girl who lives out of state. She's in college and will be back in town sometime in July and we always hang out when she's here, but we never really talk when she's out of town. We seem really close and romantic when she's here, but it's just hard for me, for whatever reason, to not know if I should try to talk to her or how.
Any help would be appreciate, thanks :) | Crushes |
Let me start of by saying that I'm 16. I've had this crush for almost 7-8 years now. I met her around 10 years ago. As already mentioned I had a baby crush on her for some time till 2009. Around 2012 I started crushing on her again and this time it was a proper teenage crush. The crush on her has been there ever since and I want to move on. Around 2-3 months back I thought I had moved on but recently I started crushing on her again. She has had a boyfriend since the past 3-4 years now and it's pretty obvious I've never had a girlfriend yet. I "was" a pretty good friend of her but I've not talked to her much recently as of now. Please I need your help guys. | Crushes |
I posted a while back about E and K (found [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/36p00j/i_am_a_big_dumb_babby_help_please/)) so this is a kind of continuation of that.
It turns out K is less lesbian than I initially thought because complications have arose. By way of strange magic she has a crush on ME (info courtesy of her best friend at a party last night) and now I'm just more confused than ever.
My main problem is this: I have a recent ex who is still under the impression that we are dating even after I A) told her we were done, B) changed relationship status to single, and C) stopped speaking to her. I'm not really holding it against her since I helped her through the most difficult parts of her life in the past but I realized that she needed someone better than me.
My secondary problem is related to the first. I feel really uncomfortable dating K now because of why I left ex in the first place: because I don't feel like I'm in a situation where I can deal with serious relationships and I don't believe myself to be currently datable as a person.
I understand that I sound like an ass for saying this, but I would much rather have a pleasant kind of hooking up thing than a serious relationship. But if it is a relationship she's looking for, I'll simply not pursue this.
Thoughts, suggestions, anything helps mates. | Crushes |
I called my crush (known her for 5 years) earlier today to hang out this weekend.
We never hanged out us two before.
But she said she already had plans with a guy but that it was not official so she wasn't sure.
She then said she'll let me know in case her plans fall through.
Then I said I'll call her instead and she said ok.
I know it sounds kind of hopeless considering she said "A GUY" instead of "FRIEND" (she is usually more specific) but I want to try nonetheless.
So when should I call her back. Tomorrow? Saturday?
And I know this has to be done early, around 12 or 1 maybe.
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Especially when you're attracted to them? Its like "You would be a good couple, but they're he/she is out of your league." | Crushes |
So I like this guy and we are slowly becoming friends....I always initiate the conversation and one day I asked him why I'm always talking and he says he's not a social person. But the thing is he has a small group of friends that he talks to, besides me... But idk any advice
Ps. I always initiate conversation and he gives a long response and very descriptive. | Crushes |
hey
so I need some advice. I have noticed I kind of am been crushing really hard on this girl at work. She is super cute. I do have crushes every once in a while but never this bad. She fits my extremely high standards like wow I never though id find someone like this. she is super preppy like me loves working out and blonde :D so she is every thing I dreamed of and I love her personality. which is also hard to find. So major problem for me is she has a boyfriend :( story of my shit life. Im not even complaining that he sucks and id be soo much better or whatever. From what she has told me about him he seems like a nice dude. it just sucks to think I don't even have a shot. I never had a girlfriend and she defiantly not one I would want to get away. but I never hang out or talk to her outside of work and why should I/she. she has a boyfriend. there are some moments at work where I think she does like me more than a friend but then again I could just be bad at reading signals. like the one today that made me want to ask for help was she wanted me to help here with the back lacing on her dress and there are plenty of other girls at my work! I work in retail so im like one of the only guys that works at my store! and not just once but twice she did this. but then again like I said she might think oh hes my friend he will help. So I really don't know man. it like should I just forget about it even thought she perfect and I cant really stop thinking about her or wait if she breaks up with her bf that might never happen or just be happy being sort of friend? any help is appreciated. | Crushes |
Today was amazing, I got over my crush and I feel free!
It's hard to explain how it happened, but here are the vital ingredients:
- confidence: be good to yourself, don't compromise your values for the sake of your crush. If they want to friend-zone you, say no, and walk away, knowing you'll be better off.
- understand the fantasy aspects of it: no matter what you feel, it's all bullshit. The jealousy is fake, even the love is fake, just take everything with a grain of salt.
- don't be a bleeding heart, don't profess your love. If you're going to make a move, you have to have game. If you're not going to make a move, you'll have to come to terms with that (like I did), and recognize your values/integrity, and make the choice to walk away.
- try flirting with other people, just for fun. It will feel good, and it might help you realize how fake the crush is.
Best of luck to you all, I hope you get through your crushes soon (it feels awesome). | Crushes |
Okay so I really need help with this. I used to do these musical theatre type classes with a guy who my friends were always saying liked me, and who I liked back. But I wasn't sure about this, and I refused to believe them. Things that have happened that could show he liked me:
*my friends were playing truth or dare with him and his friend (although I wasn't there because I was too nervous to hang out with him) and my friend was dragging him across the floor in my direction during his turn and I figured what makes guys nervous? Girls make guys nervous. Right?
*A while after I quit the classes, I saw him when I was coming out of a music lesson and every time I looked over at him, he quickly looked away like he was trying not to get caught.
*Like above - my friends and I were talking after class and one of my friends brought up that she'd seen him staring at me in "a lovey-dovey way"
Reasons he might not actually like me:
*We're both really shy so we barely talked
*After I saw him walking back from school after my music lesson, I never saw him walk that way again. Maybe he just doesn't want to see me? Idk. Help!
EDIT: I haven't seen him in months but I can't stop thinking about him. It's that bad. | Crushes |
Right so This girl started speaking to me, about 2 months ago. We've seen each other around and had each other on Facebook but never spoke. She messaged me one night asking if i like the band Palma violets which are one of my favorites. long story short we were both going to see them live and after speaking for around a month i asked if she wouldnt mind if i tagged along with her and she fine with it.
so we met up and had a great night there, it was me, her and one of her friends. on the way home she got a lift back off her parents so i walked with her friend. While speaking to him i found out they were once boyfriend and girlfriend. i shrugged it off because they both said they were better off friends.
So we spoke some more after the gig (Me and her, not her ex) when it got to the point of last Sunday, I had plans to go and see Mumford and sons and then hit the town whilst she was on her work night out in town too. She gave me her number and told me to text her when i got there so we could go for a drink.
So she abandoned her work friends to just come see me and we ended up grabbing a drink and talked about the most stupid of things until 4 in the morning, we both really enjoyed it.
whilst out i asked if she was free this week so we could go to this really nice canadian style Cafe and she said wednesday is good.
Come Tuesday she then asks if we could re-arrange it to Saturday, still fine for me but then it goes from the Cafe, to grab a Hot drink at like McDonalds instead. a bit of a downgrade but im still meeting up with her right?
So basically im not sure where i stand with this person
Seems interested in me and sort of too friendly but at the same time, Texts and facebook message replies can be rather slow (Like 2 hours in between or sometimes instant)
Anyone think they can help me?
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(Il Keep it Snappy)
SHOWS INTEREST
-Messaged first
-Told her who my 2 favourite bands are / Messages me days later saying she listened to them and is in love with them.
-gave me her number
- Abandoned work colleagues to come see me at 2 in the morning
-Said yes to going out for something to eat
UNCONVINCING
-Long replies (She is busy with work sometimes i understand that)
-Moved the day out/Date (IDk) to Saturday/ Went from Fancy Cafe to McDonalds
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It's been 2 months, and I'm still crushing. She was away for a month and it was horrible. Now that she's back, it's even worse.
Tried killing the fantasy by getting to know her, but she's even more wonderful now. Funny, smart, friendly, athletic, outgoing, generous and fascinating. She even gets my sarcasm.
I'm so screwed. | Crushes |
I feel like I think too much about my crush. Like I start to analyse some conversations we have and even worry about what the future one year from now will be like with my crush. How do I stop thinking so much? | Crushes |
I meant someone on a penpal website, and only talked for a short while. But they're the weirdest person I met. By that, I mean they're interesting, and I guess you could say I find them 'charming'. I don't why, but I really want to know more about them. It's weird, I still feel empty, and yet, I find myself going after some stranger who I would describe to be like Cheshire from Alice in Wonderland. Absolutely strange. | Crushes |
i like my cashier job, but what i really look forward to is interacting with my coworkers, the guys in particular. it just seems like i get along better with them and they like me.
currently i'm crushing on a former supervisor of mine who transferred to another department. he was always kind of dick-ish to other people because of how seriously he seemed to take his job but i kind of liked his attitude (who am i kidding, i would forgive him for anything). he was never awful to me and we kind of talk here and there but i worry that he doesn't take me seriously enough. i can't read him! i don't know how he feels about me and i'm dying to know! he probably sees me as a damn pleb while i trip over myself to even catch a glimpse of him. i am pathetic but so grateful to be comfortable with him and have any sort of interaction with him really. sigh. | Crushes |
So, there’s this girl I really like and had a crush on close to a year. It all stated where she transferred school and we ended up having a class together. Didn’t think much of it at first..who would? As time went on I began to develop a “crush”. She was awesome smart, pretty, outgoing, driven and motivated. Everything one could ask for in an individual. So anyways I didn’t conclude anything at first thinking this is just another cute girl plenty of them right???? Nope, turns out I genuinely liked her. We shared the same interest got along pretty well and so on. Once I decided how I actually felt I moved on from there. Somehow we exchanged snapchats followed each other on social media. Don't exactly recalled who initiated that. Keep in mind she had a boyfriend that I didn’t know off(Huge Twist later on ).
We snapped one another quite often, more then the average couple if I think about it. During this time I was think to myself everything is going well. Took it a step farther by asking for her number..turns out she didn’t have a phone. (Actually True) Alright, cool didn’t think much of it. So, we continued snap chatting and so on. Then on day i just out of the blue told her how i felt. Not directly as I didn’t want it to be nor put her in that awkward situation, but she got the hint. I figured she would just laugh it of, but nope she told me she had a boyfriend. I thought I was just late to the party and dropped it. I guess she didn’t get the memo and she continued to talk to me out of the ordinarily from class. Maybe she’s just the flirty type, but i found that odd. Not sure about others, I wouldn’t want my girl talking to some guy daily and throughout the night.
Heres the huge twist…turns out that her boyfriend is actually a good friend of mine. He occasionally come and hangs out with my group of friends. Never told her I knew her boyfriend btw. Some how they end up breaking up for reasons I’m unaware off nor do i care. We continued to talk more some days then others, but it was consistent. Graduation roles around and i find out she actually got a phone and never told me. Not sure if it was intentional, but it sure felt like it. I completely tried to cut her off at that point…long story short didn’t work. After a few months of not talking to or seeing her due to summer break I slowly forgot about her over time. That is until college, where put of the blue i tagged her in some Instagram picture of her favorite car. Thats when she private messaged me on Instagram where we had flirty conversations. This went on for about a month or so,and out of nowhere she never replied. Me not wanting to be clingy and wanting to respect myself didn’t send her another message nor did I try to start another conversation. A month later here we are. I’m sitting in bed thinking about her…not exactly how i plained this evening. I feel as I know what I need to do and made efforts to do so, but wanting reassurance in my decision. Not interested in telling my friends about it as I think having a crush on someone close to a year without results is embarrassing. | Crushes |
There's this girl and she's really pretty. She lives near me and I know a few people that know her but we have never met. I follow her on Instagram and I have her on snapchat and the last few days it been going crazy. How can I meet her without her getting creeped out. Please help! | Crushes |
Ah yes, the cliche, "I fell in love with my best friend story" but is it possible he may have fallen in love with me too? Let's get this straightened out, I'm a sophomore in high school; Hes a junior (I failed a grade) and let's say his name is chase. Well let's flip back to last year when i walked in my new Spanish 2 class. He was actually considered a weirdo last year because of his long shaggy hair, odd humor (which we both have) and weird way to dress. For some odd reason he had this thing against freshmen which to this day, I still can't wrap my head around it. but anyway, he hated my guts until the end of first semester when we only talked in Spanish. My crush on him then was minor, I really liked his humor and the way he didn't care what people thought about him, he was so different it just drove me nuts. I remember when I got his snap chat on the last day of school, I thought I was hot shit. I only posted good selfies on my stories and never sent him pictures without make up on; pathetic, I know. Over the summer we started talking more on snapchat and I started getting comfortable around him enough to send him the worst possible selfies I could ever take, I'm talking hella double chins, pictures of me mid-sneeze and just the weirdest stuff. He kind of got fed up of me using all his data on snapchat so he gave me his number. Let me tell you, I sent that to so many friends I couldn't contain myself. A few days before school started I was falling asleep when my phone rang and behold! He was facetimeing me. "True love!" I thought. when I walked into the orchestra room on the first day of school I was confused when he bumped into me because he looked totally different. He cut his hair and put these highlights in them (they actually look EXTREMELY nice) and he got these glasses that weren't the, "I trade Pokemon cards" type. He looked so different, so nice, so not him. I obviously knew that this new look would get girls attention so that meant I had to step it up a notch. I made the mistake of wearing sweatpants on the first day of school because, well I just don't care. So I switched up my whole wardrobe, got new makeup and even straightened my hair for this kid. Of course he didn't notice. Instead he wrestled me to the ground and locked me in a choke hold. Let's fast forward to September. I thought it'd be fun to get some friends together and go see a movie so I called chance he accepted and we had a great time. We made it our weekend thing now but with less and less people every week. So now it's us two and 2 other people. The first time I met his mom was actually really awkward. They were standing in the line for tickets and my friend Anna* and I went up to them. I immediately went up to his mom and introduced my self "hi, you must be Mrs. Garcia, I'm Cindy it's so nice meeting you" as SOON as I said my name she looked over at chance and said "so YOURE Cindy? I've heard so much about you.." I let out a nervous chuckle and looked at chance doing this weird thing with my eyebrows like the "oh really???" Look. He scolded his mom and I felt Anna nudge me. We didn't really let it bother us and watched the transporter; a shit movie (the theatre was empty so we pretty much just goofed off the whole time) on Halloween he called me inviting me to go watch Netflix at his house (no, we did not Netflix and chill.) so I accepted and he came to pick me up at my place. I took my costume because I knew we were going to get some candy afterwards. He was a bacon strip, I was a banana and our friend Dylan was an egg. I named us "the breakfast club" and we just had a great time. I was offered to spend the night but I knew I snore and when I wake up I look like a sewage rat, there's no amount of ugly selfies that can prepare anyone for my face when I wake up. It's just, I like this boy. A lot. And it's not even about his looks anymore it's about his personality. His humor, his laugh, the stupid way he mocks me when I make a good comeback. The way we FaceTime when he's pooping. Even the way we wrestle each other. He's exactly like me just in a guy version. I know I wrote a lot and if you're reading this, thank you for sticking around. My friends are so tired of hearing about him. I just needed to get it all out. | Crushes |
well i have been having on this girl for like 5 years.. yeah that already sounds terrible and she knows this. we used to be very good friends in primary school and then we were put in different classes in middle school i stopped chating and comunicating with her. after like 1.5 year in middle school i realised she is amazing, but it was pretty awkward just to start talking with her again plus she had very annoying friend who was following her everywhere. then i started doing stupid stuff like randomly texting her... and now when i'm in high school i'm starting to get along with her again. but it's really hard to become good friends again because she knows that i am hitting her. So any advices or tricks? | Crushes |
Chloe Bennet is in my opinion the most beautiful girl in the world. my biggest wish is to meet her someday because it's frustrating that I probably never will have the chance of seeing her in real life. I know that I look a bit desperate but my love is really big for her | Crushes |
There is a Chinese girl in my office, and we keep looking(direct eye contact) at each other at-least 5 times a day.. She look for me when she passes my cabin and vice versa. What should I do? | Crushes |
I'm a feature writer (He's the EIC) in our school which means I have to interact and see the other journalists 4-5 times a week, and we have meetings at times. We're currently working on our school newspaper and training for a regional contest, and that means I have to see them more often.
I never really found him attractive in any way before, I just thought he's pretty nice and has some talent but that's it. Since I've been spending more time with him now and he's been really nice I've harbored some feelings. He keeps helping me out on things and he just acts close towards me, and I like to think that he's just being friendly and he feels like it's he's responsibility as an Editor in Chief.
I've tried everything to get away from him, but it's not possible because I see him everyday and I just can't ignore him. Journalism is forcing us together. The contest is 3 weeks away and we have to finish our newspaper before the end of the month. And it's just impossible not to communicate with him, especially if he keeps helping me.
These are the things that happened so far:
He keeps telling my brother that I should join journalism because apparently I'm "a great writer"
Once I joined (I was actually forced to by my English teacher) he looked really happy to announce my name
During the contest these are the things he said:
"Did you listen to the performance? Because they might use that as a topic for feature." I didn't really listen but I nodded anyways, because I don't want him to keep talking to me when I'm trying to avoid him.
"What time is your contest?" I pretty sure he knows already since I have the same time with one of his close friends, and he smiled at me afterwards
According to my mum he acts sweet to me but not to my other classmates
Also according to my mum he cheered the loudest when I won 2nd place
And my friends told me while I was still in my contest and he got out already he was one of the people asking where I was and getting worried.
So far acts that he's done in school:
He opens doors for me
When we had a meeting for the newspaper and my task was to write about things that are pretty serious (social issues, environment, culture and religion) he immediately told the girl beside him "Bring out the example of that page so I can show it to her."
My bestie was in charge of the entertainment page but he didn't show any examples to her, and she obviously looked like she didn't know what to do.
During one of our meetings he gave me a printed article that was suppose to be for him but he said "it would help your writing." It was a news feature article and that was the category he needed to work on but he gave the article to me.
So those are the stuff so far...He keeps acting nice and I keep digging myself a deeper hole. I don't want to like him, I want to stop liking him. But I can't just avoid him since he's the EIC and I'm a journalist so there are times where I have to talk to him, which is...everyday.
And there are rumors in school that says he's in a relationship, but my friends don't know who. He's close to 3 girls but not at the same time, I don't even know how to explain it.
I just keep hurting myself more.
I know he's not the last man on Earth, and he's not the love of my life and it's a just a stupid crush. So I don't need to overreact, but I need to get over him so badly so I can focus better on writing. Advices on how to get over him in this situation, please? | Crushes |
The last couple of weeks have been hell. I fell in love with this girl and we are best friends. Its super awkward because I know that she knows I like her, but we hang out together all of the time and I can't stand knowing that I will get nothing out of this relationship. I don't know what to do to make things better or to get over her, when we go out and she flirts with other guys I feel dead inside because I feel worthless and pathetic since I am not good enough for her. What can I do to get over her knowing that we do spend almost all of the time together? Thanks | Crushes |
my boss is supercute and supermarried!!! i liked him from the 1st time i met him,which was when he interviewed me. i love every little thing about him right from his brown eyes,his smile, his height, his skin,his fabulous wit,amazing sense of humor .....basically every bit of his personality.....oh gawd its been 6 months and there's no sight of the end of my crush! i think of him every freaking moment..... | Crushes |
So there's this girl I've liked since last year. Thankfully, we have a lot of classes together, and generally sit next to / near each other and talk a lot in class and she laughs a lot at what I say, even if it isn't funny and she smiles a lot when talking to me. Unfortunately she has no social media so I can only talk to her at school currently ;(. What are some signs to know she likes me and she isn't just super friendly (she doesn't interact with anyone but one of her friends so I have no evidence to see if she'd like this with every guy)
For anyone who says just ask her out.. I just have 2 issues with directly asking her
1. My super religious parents who want me to only date Christians (but I can't exactly decide who I end up with crushes on) so I really would want to be sure, explain to my parents (since she believes in God and all, just her and her family are not practicing/going to church and she does curse occasionally (which is the part I'm concerned with regarding parents) , then ask out
2. Possible rejection
And if there is rejection, I would still want to be friends but awkwardness may be around | Crushes |
She's petite and really cute. Out a my league to boot. But the real problem is she's had the same bf for five years and they've a kid. I'm not sure why she's with him when he's told her she isn't marriage material and she caught him setting up a date with some one else and is sure he cheated on her.
But blah. I'm crushing on her and wish I wasn't. I close bk with her most nights and we talk like constantly. Hope she doesn't know honestly since I'm sure its just make things weird. But its really starting to bug me. I mean shit I'm 26 not a teenager. Lol | Crushes |
Tall, dark hair, blue eyes....swoon!
So. I know how bad/strange that sounds, but seeing as my own parents are 10 years apart, it doesn't register as weird to me. Anyway, I've been at this place for 11 months and I really like this one coworker of mine. He's gentlemanly, kind and VERY intelligent, but rather shy. I truly do not know if he likes me. I'm very bad at telling if he does. What I do know is that he smiles and says hi when he sees me, i catch him staring at me alot (sometimes he doesn't smile then though :( and I've caught him checking me out once) And, whenever I ask him to get lunch with me, he always goes. (however, he himself hasn't asked me yet.) Does he even like me? Shy guys what do you do when you like a girl?????
I've been super professional and tried really hard not to stare at him and just focus on my work. I think he thinks I don't like him now...but I've found a new job and will be leaving in a few weeks.
Should I ask him out on my last day? I'm not even sure if he'll be ok with it, given our age difference. Would guys be offended if a girl does that?
Part of me is worried he'll parade it around the office if I do so. Also, just really not sure if this is ok. For those of you who've met your s/o at work, how did that happen?
Oh, and clicked his schedule and saw that he'd marked "stepstools_are_mybff's last day"....he did that not me, and I didn't tell him when my last day would be
I might:
A. Write my number on a post it note and just be like "here's my number if you want to stay in touch"
B. Write out a cute little card about how I think he's smart/awesome and add my number...basically showing all the cards
?????????
tl;dr : crushing on soon to be former co-worker, afraid to ask him out. Should I just let this one go? | Crushes |
I have a crush on someone in my school I'm not sure if he likes me I was on social media and asked every one to put the first letter of there crushes name. They guessed mine right and i know I will be the "talk of the town" tomorrow. I'm nervous about saying that I have a crush on him to everyone, but should I say that I like him to other people or wait till he asks me when he's alone and most importantly, should I tell the truth? | Crushes |
Is an incredibly talented double bass + bass guitar player and I went to his jazz gig and had a meltdown the other day. That instrument (double bass) is the best expression of sexual tension I've ever heard, so deep and such a tense wooden sound.
my friend insinuated loudly in class that I was dressing up for the teacher - he overheard her and now it's plainly obvious to him. Semester is over but I have more classes with him next year becuase it's a small course and I feel like he was avoiding me last time I saw him.
He's about 45, I'm 28 and slightly overweight (only a bit) so I have no idea how he perceives me. Certainly not as ugly or anything, but probably not as attractive either. There's another girl I've noticed him noticing and I wish that was me.
I hope he doesn't treat me strangely. When I went to his gig he said it was sweet of me to come and that he appreciated it. I hope he's always that nice until uni ends (which I don't want it to - I don't want my classes with him to end!) | Crushes |
So to keep things short, Hi I'm Tayler a junior in almost all honors and college level classes and that's where I met this girl.
About three and a half months ago I broke up with my first love because she slept with my best friend. I was destroyed as a person and while I'm remarkably better looking at the time frame those demons still haunt me sometimes. But then as if that didn't sound like it was straight out of a story enough wait until you get a load of this.
So my main social circle is really nerdy and likes to play board games and have intellectual talks and things of that nature. Then one day a girl expressed interest in coming to our, almost always weekly, get-together type thing and joining the group. The rest wanted to take a vote on it until I pointed out the only reason they were going to take a vote was because it was a girl that wanted to join and that shut them all up real fast. She was a great addition to the group with a somewhat darker more cynical view on the world but was still an upbeat person, a couple of the guys even said it was like having a female me, and naturally we grew to like each other and gravitated towards each other. But then you can guess what happened.
I'm a person whose been broken a lot in life and as such have become incredibly mentally strong and it takes a lot to mentally break me now. I've always gravitated towards people like me, ones who have extreme levels of mental fortitude because we almost always view the world the same way and we share weakness, the most common being self image, that we can help each other with. I could instantly tell she was that type of person as well and eventually we decided to take a day off and tell each other our stories. I never intended for it to have the effect that it did, seeing as she has a boyfriend who's about to graduate from army basic training, but its effect was swift and immediate.
Even before we even decided on a date people at school were asking us if we had a thing or if we were going out, which got really annoying but we both laughed it off, and people kept telling us that we would be a good couple. And that was the ultimate foreshadow.
We eventually sit down to have this talk and share our stories and I must say hers was much worse than mine. She's suffered much more than I have and I know she will be stronger than me when she can finally put those demons away. But after we told each other our stories we just kept talking and talking and talking. We struggled to find differences between us. We laughed and poked fun at each other. Then we brought up the rumors about us at school and this is when it all changes. She said that if circumstances were different that she would totally go out with me after getting to know me a bit. She complimented me and told me it was a possibility that would happen but then she listed reasons why she wouldn't. I said the same thing and then listed my reasons why. After I dropped her off I realized just how long we had talked for. 7 hours of us just talking. And for some reason I couldn't see what was coming.
The very next day was the exact same thing only this time we texted for hours before we hung out. She eventually invited me over to help her babysit and I went and got some monster for us before showing up. We played with the kids and they even told us that we were a good match but we just laughed it off again. After I got home we texted all day and into the night. I then later that night offered her a ride to my party when she couldn't find one anywhere else.
At my birthday party the next day I picked her up before I headed off to get some wood from my buddies place a couple blocks down for the fire we would be having later on. When I got back with a truck full of wood she came out on the deck and watched me unload it. Then when I got back she sat next to me for every game we played. Then later on in the evening I brought her back to her place to pick up her lacrosse stick and a couple "stick" innuendos flew and we laughed and kinda checked each other out. We passed the ball back and forth for a little bit until eventually the other guys wanted to play lacrosse so we gave up our sticks and we just kind of stood next to each other. Then a lot of time passed and eventually everyone was inside but I didn't get a chance to play in the game do to a player limit so I went outside to sit by the fire and relax for a bit. She was the first to lose and came out and sat next to me for awhile. We talked more about our past, the type of people we are, what type of people our friends our, and it is at this point where we promised each other to always protect each other. Then later on that night when I went to drop her off she delayed getting out of the car for a bit to talk just a little while longer. Even after I got home at one in the morning we text for hours more after.
And the day after that party is today and I just don't know where to begin. I woke up to her texts and we texted for awhile before I said that I might need some time away from her. I confessed I was falling for her and that I knew I should back off because I didn't want to become to attached before her befriend came back. She said she struggled with the same feeling and we both shared how we fight to not always hover around one another. Then we kind of transitioned away from that and started talking about other things. She even convinced me to apply for a job at where she works. I have and interview tomorrow. And now as I'm typing this I'm waiting for her to get off work so we can text some more.
I don't know what to do guys I'm so lost and I just need some advice on where to proceed. We both know we are falling for each other hard and fast but neither of us wants to make the move. She hasn't broken up with her boyfriend and I still hang around even though it drives me crazy to see her and not have her and I have to fight the urge not to hug and kiss her whenever I'm around her. Please guys where do I go from here? I know what I want and I know what she wants, and they're the same thing, we just don't want to move and quite frankly I don't know what move I could make at this point. Please send help. | Crushes |
So there's this guy that i kinda have a crush on, he works at my local store and i think he's pretty cute. I don't know him but after a while as we would walk by each other, he started just saying hi, not to stop and talk but just as we walked past one another. I often find him glancing over at me, raising his eyebrows, stuff like that. I want to talk to him but with stuff like that, i'm pretty shy with stuff like that, had the situation been that we had mutual friends and were in a group conversation, i'd be chatting away but i'm not so good 1 on 1. So Does he like me? and Any advice on getting him to come to me? because i don't think i could muster up the balls to do it! | Crushes |
Back story i only know her for less than a year,but the person in the "story" knows her for about 3 years.
So today we went to the book fair, as the whole school. And my crush bought a LOT of books. When we came back to school i wanted to carry her books, but i was too scared that my friends would get that i like her. But then what do i see, her other friend (guy) carries her books. Its not that bad,but still it makes me sad,so i wanted to share it with you guys/girls.
Sorry for the typos,there are a lot of them. | Crushes |
I make and mail anonymous art cards on etsy. My first series is all about your crush. Do you want to confess your love? How about flirt with the one you already have? I will be giving away an art card to the first person to like my facebook page {yup, brand new baby page with no likes yet just waiting for you} and another when I hit 100 likes. www.facebook.com/hivecard | Crushes |
There's this guy at work that I have a huge crush on, I've noticed that he always stares at me, hangs around where I do, walks slowly when he sees me, acts so shy and awkward whenever I'm around, and his coworkers always look at me. Is this all in my head or should I go talk to him/give him a signal to talk to me ? | Crushes |
So for the past month me and this girl have being eyeing eachother and smiling at eachother every day, and i mean every day theres no fail. We see each other throughout the day multiple times but for some reason i just cannot get myself to talk to her no matter what i do and im usually not even a shy person. I am confused because she has never tried to talk to me either yet but she seems really interested also. Somebody please help, thanks! | Crushes |
So I've had an interest on my classmate for the 2 school years (almost, I'm about to finish the 2nd one) but have never said a word to her, the most significant interaction we have probably had is me passing her some papers or vice versa. As far as our personalities she's an average girl or at least that's what she comes across but there can always be more to people, then there's me, I have close to no interactions with my peers because I choose music over any chance of socializing, sounds kind of mean or maybe like I'm full of myself but I've just never really been a social guy since fourth grade (high school junior now) so that's why I prefer to just clear my mind with music. I take drugs but I don't think it's visible on the outside apart from me itching or shaking sometimes, maybe I smell like cigarettes sometimes but I try to keep the smell off me. So it's normal, social, a bit mysterious because she's not exactly like other girls in the sense of socialism, (maybe she just takes her work more serious than I can see) girl over a antisocial junkie, it depresses me to think about it like that but I've never been one to reject reality. I don't know if she knows but I know she probably doesn't like me because just picture a guy who always listen ms to music by himself, rarely talks, acts weird (Like I said I may shake when I'm high), and cuts classes. I really like her...usually I get over a girl if she doesn't matter but it's been almost a year and no matter how many other girls I date or drugs I do...I just can't shake her of my mind. I only have a month left before the school year ends and I don't know if I'll still have classes with her but whenever I try to push myself to ask her I get these negative thoughts out of nowhere reminding me she'd never love a outcast junkie like me :(
I really wish she knew how I felt I don't know if I've missed anything but it's just nice to vent, if anyone read this whole thing, thank you. | Crushes |
My darling French neigbor
Hey all! I'm a 23 year old girl, recently graduated as an animator. A few months ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. So I had to move out. We had been together for four and a half years, which is quite a while!
Little over a month since we broke up, I found a new appartment. It's beautiful: in the middle of the city, very modern and completely filled with light, I share it with my sister.
A neighbor kitten ran into my appartment, one thing led to another and suddenly all us new neigbors are having a barbecue together. The door next door opens, then I see him. Tall, with round glasses and one crooked tooth, big fumbling hands and a shy smile. His eyes are a lovely pale blue. He joins us and gets the fire going properly.
He's French, and recently moved here. We apparantly took each other's appartment: I called for F but got G, he called for G but got F. We talk a bit, his English isn't the best, nor is my French, but we manage. His voice is soft and quiet - I get to lean in to hear him repeat his words, sometimes still failing to understand even after repeating himself three times.
And what do you know, what are the odds: he also works in animation! In 3D modeling, while I'm an animator. The rest of the evening we all enjoy a good meal, he talks with a few of the other guys, and spends a lot of time left out of conversations. (All us other neighbors have Dutch as our native language)
My sister and I host a housewarming party for some friends. We're outside having drinks by the window, and lo and behold who gets out of his appartment, my darling Frenchman. I immediately ask him to join us and he does. We spend the night in good company, having lots of drinks and enjoying nintendoland on my WiiU. Our hands touch a few times when I hand him a wiiremote and I love it. He pets my owl (which I WISH was a euphemism) but cannot decide on a name for it. He brings along Liar's Dice and it all lasts until about 3 30 AM. He retreats to his appartment, we all go to bed.
I feel this crush growing stronger. He's so pleasant, so quiet, so handsome. After a short night of drinking, heading home at about twelve, I pass his appartment and all his windows are open. He's sitting on the windowsill smoking a cigarette and softly says hello. I open my appartment door, stop in my steps, throw my purse in and go back to invite him and his roommate for some more WiiU. They come along and we play again until bedtime. His roommate is a lot louder: most conversations are taken over, and my crush doesn't say much.
I'll keep inviting him over, keep talking to him as good as I can, but whether this will go anywhere is anyone's guess really. After all he's so shy! And he may or may not be single, for all I know he has a girl back in France.
But in the end it doesn't matter too much. I feel good, I'm happy to have a crush again, and I'm loving my new life combined with these butterflies in my stomach.
If you're French, living in a different country with a French roommate, work in 3D modeling and have an animating girl next door with a WiiU, come on by and ring the door! | Crushes |
I am a sophomore in high school and I really am falling for this girl. I have known her since I was in kindergarten and I consider her probably my best girl friend. I am pretty sure she knows I like her and she has shown before that she has some affection toward me, but I just don't know if I want to date her or not. Her last boyfriend she ended on good terms with him, but one of my two friends dated and now they are on bad terms with each other. I don't want to end on bad terms, but I also don't want to make things awkward between us right now since she is kinda distancing herself from me and we are pretty good friends. | Crushes |
So, I met this person in Marching Band, and I immediately had a crush on them. At first, I didn't really say anything, much less do anything, but later a small conversation started and I somehow managed to wiggle my way into sitting with her during practice. It wasn't much, but it was something. Later in the marching season, when we had to go competitions on charter buses, I managed to sit with her, and we became acquaintances if not friends, and she introduced me to a mobile game she was pretty good at that she played a lot (Vain Glory). As an FPS gamer, I sucked at the game which is a MOBA, but I don't know if that affects anything. Eventually, marching season ended and our friendship pretty much just stalled and we didn't talk much anymore. I think I messed up pretty bad earlier as she is the president of our anime club and I showed interest and she seemed pretty happy about me wanting to come, but being shy, I never went because I thought it was too awkward. Later, almost at the end of the school year, I finally went to a couple of club meetings, but we didn't even make eye contact much less talk, so it's kind of hopeless. I also try to play with her on Vain Glory, but she just ignores my party requests. I also tried to help her with an issue I saw she was having with her computer, but she also still just ignored me. I don't know what to do now.
Also, she's an INFJ (MBTI), I figured it out slowly. I don't know if this affects anything, but I'm and ISTP so this makes our relationship: http://www.socionics.com/rel/act.htm
TL;DR: Met girl in marching band, never went to her club, now she ignores me.
EDIT: She's also 1 grade ahead of me, so I don't have classes with her. | Crushes |
There is this girl in my class and she is the most beautiful girl ever. I don't have the balls to talk to her and I know no guy talks to her. I can see my life with her it's just that I can't talk to her. What should I do? | Crushes |
There is a girl in my math class who I truly believe to be the must beautiful girl I've ever seen. I've had a crush on her for a few weeks and ive even texted her a few times. My issue is that I can never convince myself to say something to her in class. I always get this feeling of weight on my shoulders, since I feel that it will be extremely awkward for me to just start talking to her. I feel horrible and I'm not able to focus in other classes because I feel ashamed. I have no problem talking to people over text because I have no chance of messing anything up, and more often than not its hard to be awkward over text since people can respond whenever they want. This is destroying me on the inside and I just want to break the ice and say something to her, but I just can't. I've been asking my friends for advice and I've felt confident going into class, but as soon as the opportunity arises, I feel like I'm mute. Most of the advice from this subreddit and all of my friends are the usual just say something, what is there to lose, but that's exactly what I'm afraid of. I feel as if her rejecting me will tear me apart. If I do think do anything, I'll never know. Sorry for this long post. It feels decent to be able to vent. | Crushes |
So about 5 moths ago I started crushing on this guy, let's call him Dylan , but I'm quite awkward about crushes so i was taking my time to build up the courage to tell my friends when my other friend, let's call her jen tells me she likes Dylan. This was about 2 to 3 months after i started liking him (yes I know I take a long time lol) so i decided to keep quiet about my crush cause I felt bad that we liked the same guy.
About 2 weeks ago - so 4 and a half months after it started- jen and another friend maya guessed I liked Dylan so I confessed how I didn't tell them cause I felt bad but said i dont care that much and jen was completely fine with it and understood that you can't help who you like and stuff.
The problem is that our other friend, let's say sasha, has been talking to dylan on a private DM on Instagram all weekend till about 4am each day. Sasha already has a lot of guy problems mostly revolving around 3 other ppl (I won't bother explaining) but it hurts knowing that they both talked for ages privately when there is a group DM with us all in which Sasha knows me and jen would have liked to be involved in too.
She told us she was getting "information" from him like things like that he doesn't like this other girl from the rumours and about TV shows he's into as if to be things we could both have in common with him but it just seems selfish of her to do that so secretly .
The worst part is she was even saying over DM to me and jen how their conversations the night before was really wierd and they were talking for so long as if to rub it in and make us feel worst about it and I swear that at one point she was talking to me and him at the same time separately and she told me gtg and left when usually shed tell me why she was going. Call me paranoid but I was looking on my followers bit on Instagram where you can see what people are liking and she was still liking lots of photos after she told me she was going.
Sorry this was really long but I just hope someone can help me and tell me what I should do. I know I told them I don't care much but it just seems like shes doing it on purpose cause its in a bloody private dm. And it just really upsets me. Thanks for reading anyway guys | Crushes |
So, i am in love with my bestfriend, she always makes a lot of body contact whenever we're together and she laughs and my jokes. She is really happy and fun to be around when she is with me. The thing that makes me doubt that she likes me back is that she would point out a cute guy when she is with me, or mention that one of our mutual friends is cute. She also calls me her bestfriend and i don't know if she wants to keep it that way or bring our relationship to the next level
As of right now, i have plans to tell her abt my feelings for her after the movie we are going to see. Its been about a year and a half since i have starting feeling this way for her and I can't hold it in any longer
My question is whether i should still tell her or how i should.
How i am going to tell her: If she acts all cute and touchy during the movie, i'll grab her hand and see the way she reacts and say the things i want to say when i walk her home. Or tell her by signing her yearbook with a paragraph abt how i feel abt her.
P.s. I am 15 yrs old and in gr.9 | Crushes |
Im in love with my bestfriend and he says he is not ready to date i understand and respect that i want him to go to prom with me he said he would think about it and no i dont think its just a crush i liked him all of highschool and next year will be our last year and every now and again he shows hints of liking me and today i got in a dark place where my mind was saying he is going to leave me as a friends and never talk to me again and we will never date i know he proably would date me but he is a person who has been through things and doesnt date because of that reason currently we will both be 18 this year so nothing illegal but i just need help and advice how i should go about getting over him and really moving on brcause i date people because i cant have him and it never works out | Crushes |
Okay, so I've pretty much come here to vent and seek advice because I have few friends I feel comfortable venting to, so here it goes.
I've not dated that much, I'm a sophomore. The one relationship I really had lasted about 2 years and we semi-recently ended things because I moved a few months ago. I got closer to one of my new teachers and decided to switch into their homeroom, where I met this senior who caught my eye. He is so passionate about the things he likes, and that's really really attractive to me. We talk constantly in homeroom, but that's only 3 days a week for about half an hour... and he is graduating in a few weeks. On top of all that, I'm going to Tokyo this summer for 2 months so I won't even be here. What should I do??? | Crushes |
This semester i'm enrolled in 2 classes with this chick- we essentially take the same 2 hours class from monday to thursday every week. She's a stranger to me, and I have never even spoken to her; we sit pretty far away from each other in class. She is super beautiful and i really want to get to know her. Early on in the semester i had been eye-balling her accidentally and i think she noticed that (strong eye contact). One time when her group was presenting to the whole class and she was standing in the front with her group, i stared at her directly, and she saw me staring at her. She then began to stare back at me, and we had a good 15 second solid eye contact. Funny thing is, i kept staring as if i was looking through her, and eventually - she looked away once she thought i wasn't actually looking at her. I hope she didn't stare back at me cause she thought i was creepy- because that would be the standard response.
During class sometimes i noticed she quickly glances in my direction 3-4 times; i see it from the corner of my eye but i'm just not sure if she is reciprocating IOI's, or just looking at my friend or the clock or just glancing around for no particular reason because it's unclear through the corner of my eye. Sometimes, she echoes particular words that i say in class (like when asking teacher questions, or answering questions from the teacher) during class discussion. Also, she has placed herself in close proximity to me a few times when the class ended and we left via the hallways. Whilst these sound like generally positive signs, i feel like i'm quite biased in noticing these things because i am the one crushing on her.
A friend of mine in my class actually asked her out on a date, but she said she was dating someone else (though my friend was quite skeptical about her dating someone else from the way she behaved when he asked, and thinks she said it as an excuse). Anyhow, love is fair game and i want to have a shot before the semester ends in 2 weeks; sadly, i'll be leaving the country to go back home - so that is also discouraging me.
I've been told i'm good looking many times in my life so i hope that helps in getting her attention - but i'm just lost as to what to do. Because i have not even spoken a single word to her except during class discussion (ie. when she voluntarily answers my question after her group presents an idea to the class). But that is hardly a sign of interest.
TLDR; crushing on a classmate i have never even spoken to because she is intimidatingly smart and super beautiful. Leaving in 2 weeks when semester ends - will probably never see her again. I don't want to pussy out of this. What to do? | Crushes |
Last May, he started out as “the hot guy at work” who I only saw in passing. After a couple week of screwing up in my new position, he took me to the side and, in a store full of uptight, frankly mean P.I.C’s, he very sweetly said "Here, I'll show you how to do this". He’s been my go to ever since and everyone agrees he’s the best.
Within the month I had a crush.
At first I think it was just physical and for once I was actually pretty confident in my chances. Then I noticed the ring. Since I’m going all out here, I should be honest that I was bummed but really didn’t care that much.
Then one day, I was talking to the cool office lady about her house and she mentioned his name and suddenly I felt like Chazz Palminteri at the end of the Usual Suspects when he pieces all the clues together. I went to facebook to confirm it and saw a picture of them together. (He was, in fact, Keyser Soze.)
I was immediately consumed with guilt. Immediately decided nothing would ever happen and realized nothing ever could. Immediately tried to just switch it off. Completely and utterly. Like it never happened. Like I never really cared.
After awhile I realized that was a bad decision and an impossible task. I tried ignoring him, focusing on the bad stuff that could happen for him at work and home, thinking about his wife and family, how an affair would just wreck every single thing he built up the last 30years, looking for bad habits of his...it all just made me feel worse because despite it all, I still couldn't turn off the feeling.
Ignoring him or being cold was the worst because he's probably the nicest man I've ever met and it just made me feel terrible. If I magically got over this crush tomorrow, I would still like him as a person. He’s just so damn likable, I just wish I didn’t like him…like this!
Eventually I figured there was no harm in being friendly coworkers since I knew my boundaries (especially since he is relentlessly kind and we worked pretty closely together). So we finally became work friends and I don't want to screw that up but I'm afraid the more I see him and the more I talk to him the less hope I have of getting over him/rid of this stupid crush.
In a way I really don't want to get over him. I know it would help to bring up his wife or kids in conversation but I make sure never to do that. I know it would help to find out and focus on his bad habits, but I don't care about them. I should just quit my job (it’s not that great anyway) but I can't. I want to see him. I want to talk to him.
I just want to know everything about him. There’s so much I want to ask him. I just want to listen to him talk for like three days straight. About himself. About anything. I love his stupid voice/unmistakable accent and the facial expressions he makes and his mannerisms. I love his stupid dad jokes and how he makes himself laugh after each one. I’ve never wanted to get to know someone so much or been so consumed by them.
I’ve gone a couple weeks at a time without seeing him or talking to him because of scheduling and it’s honestly the most crushing, depressing feeling. Work is hell when he’s not there. After a few days, I think I’ve grown out of it….until I see him again and it's back to square one. When he is there, my whole mood for the day depends on how our interactions go or if we even have any.
He's about 60 (I'm 21), gray and balding, married to a woman that works 50 feet from the both of us, father of three (all of whom are older than me by a couple years), he’s not my manager but he's A manager, and...a republican. A recipe for disaster.
It's rare I get to be affectionate towards something so tall, country, and German..(curb your enthusiasm reference? anyone? no? ok.)
But I like him.
I still do.
I feel like this has gone through so many stages. Sexual attraction, guilt, trying to ignore/be cold to him, acceptance, feeling like I want to melt into the floor everytime I see him, over it, and repeat.
It will be a year in May.
I look at him all the time. I make extra trips to the back when I know he's there (something he jokingly commented on before). I'm there to support all his terrible jokes. Now that I'm in a new department I don't get to work with him directly anymore but going on breaks with him are like the ultimate. It's such a relief to open the door and see him sitting there and listen to him talk for 5 minutes, 15 minutes, how ever long I can get. About whatever. Work stuff, listening to stories about his sons or wife are hard but at least I'm talking to him, things that would be uninteresting from anyone else but I'm 100% there for when he's saying them.
I have this fantasy about telling him on my last day of work. I don't know why. I'm curious if it's obvious or if I'm successfully suffering in silence over here.
I still keep my boundaries but deep down I know that if he ever initiated anything I would not say no. That's probably where my real guilt comes from and why I'm so bad at maintaining our work friendship.
I could count on one hand the amount of crushes I've had in my entire life and I just wish this one would be over. | Crushes |
There is this girl I like and I am too scared to talk to her. She does not have any social media and I'm too scared to ask for her number as she might think I am a weird. How can I just talk to her?
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They suck but I'm entertained. I get so many crushes but I'm not dating because of school and in a self-growth period. But gosh. Boys are cute. Talked to this charming and adorable and sexy dude today. Smart & blue eyes, sigh. | Crushes |
I had history class with this girl a couple years ago and we talked everyday in that class the whole time. We haven't had any classes together in the past 2 years and now I can't stop thinking about her. I rarely get a chance to talk to her and usually when I do I'm too scared to say anything. I've started cutting myself with scissors on my arms and legs for not talking to her and I still get scared. | Crushes |
Hey so I was walking at the hallway & i saw the girl I like there & I was looking at her but then I look away then when we pass by again I turn around to look at her but she hide behind her friend then In class I was looking at her & she caught me looking but I look away then she went over to talk to her friend & I was looking at her but then I stop then later I saw her at the back of the class & was looking at me but then later left class early do you know what it means? | Crushes |
Long story (will be a TL;dr at the end):
So basically, I told my crush about something that's been bugging me about her, that being is that she reads my texts and doesn't reply back. I finally confronted her about this issue saying "Hey, can you tell me why you read my messages and don't reply back? I mean, it doesn't annoy me but it bothers me, at least tell me you're busy or can't text at the moment or something, I just wanted to tell you that" Which she replies "I'm sorry I get busy or I go out and forget to text back, my fault" And I say "Yeah, I'm sorry for saying this but it bothers me sometimes, no hard feelings" She says sorry, and I just say "It's okay but like I said, it kinda bothers me and I just wanted to let you know" So, you would think it ended there but I got on Facebook for a while to text my friend about some money, she gets online, post two images that I feel that were directly towards me, talking about losing feelings for a person you loved and I can't believe I let myself fall weak for some people, then leaves, I'm like what the fuck? What did I do? I just told her something that bother me about her and she gets all sentimental.
It's a long distance crush btw, she lives in NJ, while I live in Mexico, we've skyped and called before and she acts so sweet and nice but I've never seen her act this way before.
And she still uploads images onto Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram that I feel that are directed towards me.
She has a boyfriend by the way, just pointing that out if that means anything.
How should I approach this situation?
TL;dr: Crush gets angry over something that she does that bothers me (that being reading a text and not replying) and she goes crazy and post some controversial images on her social media that I feel were directed towards, how should I approach this situation? | Crushes |
Recently today I told a girl (My crush) that I really liked her and I feel happy with her around (Confessing). This was also face to face, a few hours later after school (High School - Late Years) she messages me on Facebook and tells me this for exact words: "Listen, you're a nice guy and all, but I'm not looking to become involved with that kind of relationship with anyone in that way. I'd still love to be your friend though." She continues to say after I asked her why, "I am just not interested in the idea of dating anyone, at the moment anyways."
What should I do now? Should I continue with waiting for her, or should I abandon ship? | Crushes |
so i was chatting with my crush and it went something like this
her: well...
me: hmm?
her:good night then?
me: kk, gn
her: gnight
me: bai ;)
her: see ya
do i have a chance with her? i also asked her who she prefers in out class but she chose people that are not me :C but do i have a chance of her liking me at all? | Crushes |